<p>Background: We are secular Jews (except Mr. Ellebud is a WASP). The bride’s family is Conservodox. I like small wedding. Their side…not so much. Everything is local in that families live 3 miles apart. Yesterday was spent picking up people from LAX and having 6 people here for dinner. Pizza and salad and wine… </p>
<p>I only had one breakdown. I can’t stand not being in charge, especially when I have an emotional and fiscal responsibility interest.</p>
<p>Received a call from mob…the Kippahs and benches arrived. Say what? Benches? We don’t need extra seating.</p>
<p>And I kind of thought that this was a byok…bring your own kippah. But not too be.</p>
<p>I am having 60 ish people fror a decidely not kosher dinner. This what my son wants and this is what he will get.</p>
<p>I have to clean our my fridges now. We may have leftovers.</p>
<p>Was last night the rehearsal dinner? Or is that tonight? And I thought everyone brought their own, too.
Just smile and nod. Smile and nod when talking with the new in-laws to be. And remember that’s why there’s alcohol.
Keep us posted - I love weddings. Should’ve been a wedding planner.</p>
<p>Have a wonderful weekend, Ellebud! Enjoy every minute because it will go by so quickly. Weddings are lots of fun, despite what is often said here on CC. :)</p>
<p>Good luck!! You’ve done all the planning; now is the time to let go and let the chips fall where they may. </p>
<p>There will be things that do not go exactly as planned but that’s okay! </p>
<p>Just remember what you already know: the single most important determinant for your guests’ enjoyment is a happy, relaxed host. Way more important than stressing over last minute details! Let go and enjoy!! </p>
<p>Can’t wait to hear all about it. Hope you have a good time!</p>
<p>BTW, at the only “conservodox”–I love that term!–wedding I’ve attended, they did have kippahs at the entrance to the sanctuary for guests. Since H is not Jewish, he availed himself of one. (We weren’t absolutely sure that he was supposed to, but I figured that it was like covering one’s hair in a Catholic church back in the day: all women were expected to do so, as a mark of respect, Catholic or not.)</p>
<p>My bridezilla moment was putting my BIL in charge of bringing extra black socks just in case a couple of the outdoorsy blue collar groomsmen forgot theirs. Maybe the kippah stash is along those lines . . . it just gives the MIB peace of mind to know they are there just in case (the sock stash went unused but gave me incredible calm just to know that it was pre-handled).</p>
<p>It is completely standard at Jewish wedding of all persuasions to have kippahs (yarmulkes) in colors that match the theme and they usually have the date and the names of the bride and groom printed inside. It is almost like a party favor. All synagogues have a little basket of kippahs by the sanctuary or front door to pick up a “loaner”. It is always fun to check to see if you know the people (or person if it is from a Bar or Bat Mitzvah) inscribed inside.</p>
<p>My guess is there wasn’t a delivery of “benches”, it was probably “benchers” which are what the folio of prayers said after a meal is called. </p>