So, I went tailgaiting this Saturday at a bunch of different frat houses. I’m rushing, by the way. I finally ended up at my favorite one. Unfortunately, I drank too much and vomited into an empty box in a room full of crowded people. My friend’s roommate helped me get out, but I’m worried that I just blew my chances of getting into the fraternity. I don’t know if any of the brothers saw me, but they probably did. Should I even bother rushing here now?
Yeah… it’s safe to say you’ve completely blown your chances. They definitely will want someone a little more responsible.
Pray they forget about it/didn’t see it. Most of us have done something similar at least once, and it sucks that “yours” was where it counted.
Tbh, I think you still have a good shot. Never mention it unless they bring it up and play it off if they do.
Really? Who’s the Patron Saint of public box barfing?
St Ralph
I think it depends on the competitiveness of the house and the house’s ethos as to what effect it will or won’t have. Also, was this box just a random cardboard box that was going to get thrown out or did you vomit in a plastic box they were planning on using again? Did you take the box with you or just leave it in the middle of the crowded room?
There were a pocket of guys in my house who were big fans of “boot and rally” (although it sounds like you left, didn’t rally), so I don’t think it’s a foregone conclusion that it was bad, and if it’s not a super competitive rush, as long as they don’t view it as blackball worthy you should be able to recover.
If the brothers really liked you before this event, they’d probably think you went hard and be impressed. I mean, a ton of people in Greek life boot and rally. But if they didn’t already really like you, you’re going to get dinged. Sorry bud.
Also, I know that you cross-posted this to /r/frat.
So the next time you do something with this fraternity, be sober. Don’t say anything and if they do, just say “learned my lesson, won’t happen again”
It’ll be fine. If someone mentions it, just say you learned your lesson. Almost everyone has to learn their lesson at some point (I did during finals weekend)
When I read this last week, I asked myself, how is this a problem? A week later, the same question comes to mind. I guess I have watched too many movies where this was normal fraternity behavior.