<p>Well, you are a great sister for trying to shed some light here. If it’s any consolation, these discussions are normal to any family with backgrounds outside the arts when the kid announces some desire to attempt a career in the arts.</p>
<p>Growing up in Baltimore, my lawyer dad used to tell us how his lawyer friend, “Mr. Marbury.” direct descendent of the jurist from Marbury v. Madison, closed his office daily at 5 p.m. and played his violin at the window as the sun set over Baltimore. He had a young dream of becoming a concert violinist, but his family insisted, “No Marbury is going into show business,” so it was law school for him. They used the term “show business” acc to my Dad, although obviously the story is l0th hand.</p>
<p>It is hard for parents to advise students who venture into the arts unless they have contacts in the industry. They might just feel insecure and know they’ll be unable to help in career transitions. It’s not that the parents must live with the uncertainty, but their kids will. If parents can separate themselves enough to not be surprised or upset when a newly graduated kid still lives with roommates, scrimps and struggles in the first years with day jobs, and so on, there is nothing to fear here. It is your sister’s struggle. She might be able to allay their fears. She could get a second major while at Tisch (DO check that out, whether online or just by looking up the course catalogue or department website), and that might help them somewhat. Or she could pick up a really good, marketable skill on the side such as foreign language instruction, EMT work, anything. Actually, writers have more scheduling flexibility than others who work in film. My kids are all in the performing arts, and among their friends are a serious, producing playwright who is a paralegal by day. </p>
<p>My personal philosophy as a parent is that I’m not going to be the one to make or break their careers. If the world tells them they have the talent, and I help provide the education to develop that talent, then they have a “shot” at success in the arts. If not, life is long and they can apply to law school at age 30 (as did my brother-in-law after he became dissatisfied as a B.A.trained jazz percussionist but finally wanted to have a family and some security more). He’s a successful lawyer today, and does some jazz playing in spare time. He made choices all along.</p>
<p>It is very hard for your parents but if it helps, just tell them that it might not be good to break somebody’s dream at this moment, if they’ve gotten the affirmation of a Tisch Dram Writing acceptance. Let the world tell her if she can or can’t do it, not her parents. </p>
<p>That’s not very practical, but then, I’m not the most practical person in the world myself. Still, things have a way of working out for kids, even through unconventional routes.</p>
<p>The fact that grad school (for many subjects) will continue to admit kids even up to age 30 and beyond is meaningful. Life is long. </p>
<p>She’ll just need a day-job to get her through her 20’s, no matter what, so count on that. If she wants to live modestly, she doesn’t have to starve either. There’s a lot of in-between going on, with post-BFA’s and post-BA’s with arts majors living in cities, working day jobs, trying to proceed. Some continue, some give up, but none have to say, “My parents wouldn’t let me try.”</p>