Sorry to take a while to respond to an earlier question. My original plan was to homeschool my son, per @sbjdorlo’s post. But, my wife wouldn’t go for it. So we did partial homeschooling as suggested by the school.
@twoinanddone, at the time I was discussing, our son had had an IEP from 2nd grade and was now in HS. We had neuropsych testing every three years showing both the disabilities and the IQ. I was reviewing all of the results with them and discussing what it would likely mean in their class. What was clear was that the data was essentially irrelevant to them – they needed to see it with their own eyes as you said or hear it from other teachers. As a data-driven person, I naively expected that the data would be meaningful – and something they should pay attention to. My point in that post was that they took the data as irrelevant. We learned to live with it, though I think the teachers should be open to learning in more than one form. For the most part, all we were asking his teachers to do was comply with the IEP.
What were we asking for? Even in the honors courses, there was lots of busy work. I remember in freshman math, he said to me, “Dad. We discussed the idea on Monday. I get it on Monday. We’re still doing it on Friday.” Before we started the partial homeschooling, in math and science, we asked if he could just do the hard problems in the problem sets. But, more importantly he found the busywork regurgitation writing assignments in English and social studies classes boring and really tiring. Most of what we were asking was to let him skip the assignments, give him extra time on the tests (per the IEP), and just judge him on the tests (or major papers). We were also asking for him to get class notes from someone – because he can’t think and write at the same time and found it pretty fatiguing (all in the IEP). So, most of what we were asking for was that the teachers comply with the IEP, which some didn’t if doing so was inconvenient for them (remarkably none of his English teachers ever did, which is part of the reason why partial homeschooling made sense). [Side note: this is one of the better high schools in a state with very good public schools and our teachers have the highest average salaries in the state.] In honors chemistry, his freshman year, his teacher believed strictly in timed tests and in having him do his own note-taking and wanted him to do all of the problems including the trivial ones (in contravention of the IEP). He did seem to be having difficulty in the class. Once she started complying with the IEP (and she hovered over him to see that he really needed extra time) he got an A+ on every test or quiz and she became one of his biggest advocates.
College and grad school were pretty much like what we had asked for in HS. No regurgitation. Extra time on tests and note-takers (for college and the first part of grad school). Only assignments with some meaning. He was much happier in college. In college, there was a stigma he had to overcome of having LDs. His freshman year, I went to open houses and two professors said, “Kids with LDs don’t generally do well in my class. So, I have to tell you that I was surprised to see that he had the highest score on both of the tests this quarter.”