Ending a High School Study Abroad Early?

I applied for and was accepted to a study abroad scholarship for a year in Germany as a high school student. Long story short, I had a really negative experience that caused me to struggle a lot mentally, and did not feel really supported by my organization as I expressed my concerns.

During this time, I learned a lot about myself, my values, and how I interact with others. My lifestyle and the way I functioned changed completely as I was forced to navigate a variety of things that were very new to me. I was essentially couch surfing at friend’s houses, not really knowing where I was going to sleep for longer than a week, due to issues with my host family. This situation, paired with a lot of other factors, took a major toll on my mental health due to the general uncertainty of not actually having a physical place to feel grounded to (by this point I had been abroad for upwards of 2 months, and the feeling of not being “settled” was starting to take a toll on my mental health).

I really do feel like as a person I have changed drastically, but I truly do not want to continue my year abroad. I am already in the process of changing host families with my organization, but I truly do not want to continue any more even if I have a new start.

My parents are fully supportive of either decision, and I was even able to potentially find an offer in a research lab if I were to come back. I would also be able to maybe take online classes, study for SATs, and possibly get a job. I would be missing practically the entire spring semester, but I honestly don’t really care about school since I will have to make up this year anyway.

My only fear is how this will look on my resume and to colleges. While I am quitting, I do feel like I’ve already learned a lot and began applying it to my work ethic. After all, the fact I ever worried about something as small as a test grade when I practically had to support myself alone in a foreign country at 17 seems very minor in this context. Do you think it honestly will matter to finish out this program? Or is a plan of coming home and making my best effort to do something productive enough?

This is a decision you should make without thinking about how it looks. It is about the experience and your well-being.

If you come home now, there may be some college AOs who may ding you for this, and there may be some who will give you points for figuring out how to manage a very difficult situation.

The situation that would probably be viewed most positively by all would be moving in with a new host family, mastering German, and having a successful end of the full year in spite of an awful start. Only you, however, know whether this is possible, and it doesn’t make sense for you to endure if you can’t achieve at least some of those things without harm to your mental well-being.

Your situation sounds like it’s been tough, and your well-being comes first.

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