We were married on a Thursday! We did it so my family could get back to KY, where my dad was stationed at the time, in time for the holidays, and because many of our friends had just finished exams for the semester and this way they could attend and also get home for the holidays.
The cost didn’t really factor into our decision making process…
Glad to hear they plan an extended engagement.
Extended engagement sounds like something that works well for the couple and everyone else. It will give the couple time to grow and mature. Best wishes to all!
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You should definitely check out the passive aggressive thread. They’d love this.
@jeannemar, I can see that it must have been a relief that 1) there’s no pregnancy involved, 2) the timeline is pretty far, and 3) they actually announced themselves. Are you feeling a little better about the situation?
Sounds like a great family picnic. Congratulations.
Love the Thursday idea…around here, sunday evenings are also less expensive. Sounds like they are really giving this some good thought.
Kind of good that you knew ahead of time and could be prepared! A friend’s daughter married on a Wednesday and they said pretty much everyone came to the wedding. Glad to hear they are waiting until 2018. A lot can change between now and then. Hoping things work out well for all.
The FB announcement turned out to be a non-issue, they didn’t think anything about my lack of response. So it gave me some extra time to get used to the idea. I appreciate CC for letting me blow off some steam!
See there I knew it was a chance they would bring it up at the labor day get together. Good on you for letting him come to you. Calling him before hand may have seemed pushy and caused unnecessary drama.
@jeannemar --what did you say in response to your son upon hearing the announcement? Was your husband there? What did he say? Did you leave your son and his fiancee with the impression that you were both pleased and relaxed about the whole thing? Or was their tension?
Also, now that you know that this is a serious relationship, did your attitude toward your future daughter-in-law soften a bit? Did you find things to like about her?
I have to admit I’m curious about the atmosphere at the party with respect to the announcement!
“The FB announcement turned out to be a non-issue, they didn’t think anything about my lack of response. So it gave me some extra time to get used to the idea. I appreciate CC for letting me blow off some steam!”
Did the announcement on Facebook actually come up between the two of you or was it left unaddressed?
I think it’s possible that he didn’t say anything to OP before because they wanted to announce it together.
Interesting that the FDIL announced that she wasn’t pregnant. Not that many people I know feel the need to tell folks they’re not pregnant when announcing an engagement.
Maybe someone asked ;))
“I think it’s possible that he didn’t say anything to OP before because they wanted to announce it together.”
BUT, they already announced it to THE WORLD!!. They put it on Facebook, did they not? That’s not a couple wanting to wait to announce it together. 
“Interesting that the FDIL announced that she wasn’t pregnant. Not that many people I know feel the need to tell folks they’re not pregnant when announcing an engagement.”
Given their ages, my guess is they were (rudely) asked this already by at least one person. Might as well nip the questions and behind the back whispering in the bud. I’d be tempted to do the same if I was the girl.
FB isn’t the NY Times. For many, I think it’s akin to catching each other on the fly or in the locker room or ladies room.
^^I disagree. Your FB feed/friends largely compromise the people who you are ok with knowing the comings and goings of your life. Engagement would be one of those!
I got engaged (the one that lead to a marriage) at 22 and I still had a bunch of people ask if there was a pregnancy involved. It was the first thing my grandma asked…
I started telling people before they could ask because it annoyed me.
I know a couple who announced they were getting married in 1 month. They denied a pregnancy was involved in the decision. There was whispering at the reception and lo and behold a large baby was born 7 months later. I never understood why they didn’t just admit it. My brother married under those circumstances and I was glad that my parents didn’t try to hide it.
Who are these people who are counting the months between a wedding and birth announcement? Remind me not to invite them anywhere.
Young couples don’t owe an explanation to people who have nothing better to do than gossip about them at their wedding. Why should they “admit” anything? Just because people are rude enough to ask obnoxious questions, it doesn’t mean they deserve an answer.
I agree completely, austin. And if I was pregnant, I’d be the first to say I was. My parents hadn’t been married 9 months when I was born and my parents never hid that from anyone.
It just annoyed me so I started just flat out saying it.