<p>Is it true that if you’re not a confirmed Episcopalian you can’t be married in the Episcopal church? (having gone through Confirmation not Baptism)</p>
<p>Is one of the parties a confirmed Episcopalian? A confirmed Episcopalian can marry a non-confirmed Episcopalian if the particular church and priest feels the couple has enough connection with the church. (i.e. hasn’t just walked in off the street).</p>
<p>This varies very much from church to church. The Book of Common Prayer says:</p>
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<p>That leaves a lot of leeway for each church to decide how strict they wish to be about confirmation, church membership, etc.</p>
<p>When I married my husband in the Episcopal church he was not Episcopalian. I believe that marriage, along with receiving communion in the Episcopal church, requires only Christian baptism.</p>
<p>I’m just asking because though both of my kids were christened in the Episcopal church, they haven’t been confirmed and probably won’t be. A friend told me that I need to get with the program and get them confirmed in case they want to be married in the Church. I figure we’ll cross that bridge IF and WHEN we get there but I was sort of surprised by it.</p>
<p>They can choose, as adults, when and if they will be confirmed. Lots of adults go through confirmation in the Episcopal church. The ability to wed in the church should not be the reason for confirmation, so I agree with your approach.</p>
<p>Unitarians will marry anyone. I realize that doesn’t answer your question, but it does mean you can have a church ceremony without having to be a church member, if that’s important to you.</p>
<p>Is either the bride or groom confirmed, or neither?
I’m episcopalian, H is catholic, and we got married in the episcopal church with both a priest and minister performing the ceremony.
Our current minister is extremely welcoming to all, though I’m not sure what confines the church puts on marriage ceremonies right now.</p>
<p>and dke, we have the same thing going on in our house–
D1 is 14 and does not wish to be confirmed. My mother thinks this is just a phase, and she should go along with her siblings. I’m not going to push her.</p>
<p>I may be wrong, but I really couldn’t see our minister turning someone away for not being confirmed. I tend to agree with fireflyscout and Booklady’s post #3.</p>
<p>sorry have to share this cause I can’t get it out of my head</p>
<p>It is a lyric by Garrison Keillor. Sung to the tune of Ain’t Misbehavin’.</p>
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<p>Emeraldkity4 – Chort!</p>
<p>Very funny, Emerald! I’m not super church-y but really do respect the way Episcopalians look at things. I’m not going to force the kids to be confirmed because it would be completely meaningless for them at this point. If they want to some day, they can. We took them to church and Sunday school when they were little and now just go on major holidays, but they are in an Episcopal school. I’ve gotten lax in my old age and H is a lapsed Catholic so I’m on my own with the religious education. Doing the best I can, I guess.</p>
<p>Top 10 reasons to be Episcopalian (via Robin Williams):</p>
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<p>My H and I were married by an Episcopalian priest many moons ago. Neither of us were even church-goers, let alone Episcopalian but this man was a friend of my grandmother and agreed to officiate at our garden wedding. I often wondered if he was even supposed to be doing such ceremonies, but we were very grateful to have him there. :)</p>