Here is the situation: Although my son has grown to be the most opposite of me, the major he’s decided to pick is the same as mine and my wife’s. Yes, my wife and I met in college as undergrad, and then met again in grad school, studied the same major.
It’s been unavoidable that my son, since very little, has been exposed to my research and my wife’s projects. I still remember bringing him to a DoD site in CO back when he was 5 to see me doing research. Over the years, he has not only got involved in my work (college research), but also has been guided by his mom to design and build some really cool systems. His mom is the finest engineer I’ve met, a practice leader of her discipline at a national engineering firm, to put things in context.
Because he is our son, we had decided that he will NOT mention anything he has done with either me or my wife, NOT in his resume, NOT in his essay, NOT even during the interview. Of course, I never included my son as co-author in any of my publications. Were he not my son, I would have given credit to him by offering authorship, although my wife and I both believe our son has accumulated a great knowledge, top-level understanding, and broad vision of this field, which you rarely see for kids his age.
Now, he recently interviewed with an extremely competitive university, ivy with <5% acceptance rate. The interviewers liked him so much that they told him there is another candidate who is also applying to the same major, but with more experience in this discipline. The interviewers also said they will recommend my son, but it sounded like the interviewers hinted my son’s academic preparation in this major is insufficient compared with the other student, so they were not sure how the rest of people in the admissions committee would feel about it.
I’m 100% confident in my son’s academic readiness in this discipline. The challenge is, will there be moral or ethical issues if my son started mentioning the work and achievements he did with me and my wife?