<p>Yeah, so my ex-boyfriend has invited me to a cook-out at his house. His family does this every year around this time of year (it’s a July 4th celebration combined with other things going on), and all our HS friends will be there as they have for the past several years. I had gone every year except last year after our break-up, but I wouldn’t mind going again this year if it weren’t for my concerns. I actually thought I had an excuse not to go because at first, he didn’t invite me directly but rather told our friends to invite me. I also heard that his current gf (whom I haven’t met) will be there, and while I think we’ve gotten over each other, I think I’ll feel awkward being around them. Just recently, however, he did personally invite me. I reconsidered my decision because I figured that I shouldn’t dwell on past heartache and that part of moving on is creating a friendship out of a failed relationship. My other concern is telling the person I’m seeing that he shouldn’t come with me even though my friends invited him as well (he was there when they told me about the event). I don’t want him to think that I’m not proud of him, because he’s not ashamed to tell his friends/family about us irrespective of their attitude towards homosexuality. He would think I’m a coward if he finds out that I didn’t bring him along just to appease my ex’s antigay parents, but I’m seriously concerned that they would have a negative reaction (and that would be bad for the first meeting we’ll have all year). I wish I could just say “and this is (name)” without mentioning how we’re related and leave it at that, but I don’t want to be a coward, and more importantly, I don’t want to hurt his feelings. Do you think I’m better off not going, because right now, I think I’m leaning towards that decision? Or is this the easy but undignified way out? The event is this Saturday… perhaps I should just go to Six Flags or something and tell him that I have plans (it’s true that a couple of friends from college and I have been thinking of going this weekend).</p>
<p>ouch…wall of text</p>
<p>I’m sure your current bf will understand that this is awkward, but it won’t excuse you if the two of you go and try to avoid the fact that you are a couple. Without it being your intention, it will hurt him to see you being dishonest about your relationship. How does your bf feel about going to the party, does it bother him that it’s hosted by your ex? Explain your thinking to your bf, assuring him that your aren’t ashamed of him or your relationship, and see what he has to offer.</p>
<p>I really don’t understand how this is a college related issue. People really should stop asking these stupid questions. Go to some love site not here!!!</p>
<p>i read the first line only and i say go
free grilled food…cant go wrong</p>
<p>What I would do is ask a message forum to make decisions for you, o wai</p>
<p>Blah, I had something similar happen to me, except on the other end and it was only a week or so after we broke up.</p>
<p>My ex-boyfriend had already been invited to my family “vacation” to our cabin about 2 hours away, before we broke up. The plans were all ready and after we broke up, my parents insisted that he come with us. So he did, and even though he was chasing after another girl, it wasn’t too bad. Also, remember, none of my other friends were there.</p>
<p>I’d say go. If your other friends are there, and it’s been a while, just go.</p>
<p>“ouch…wall of text”</p>
<p>TITCR.</p>
<p>wait, so your formerly gay ex-boyfriend broke up with you and now he is dating a girl?</p>
<p>did his parents know you two were dating?</p>
<p>You don’t seem to actually want to go to this cookout.
Don’t go just to make some point or to prove to yourself that you’re over this guy.
Go out and do what YOU want to do and have fun with your boyfriend!</p>
<p>what is TITCR</p>
<p>This Is The Credited Response.</p>
<p>Do something else :P</p>
<p>Yay, a CCer pointed me to a forum where I could post questions just like this. You guys have been a good sounding board though.</p>