@TheGFG I can’t be 100% sure how it is. It’s not going to be the easiest place in the world, but as to whether it’s too rigorous? I actually posted a thread asking a similar question and after a lot of discussion, the conclusion was “it depends.”
As for F&M specifically, they have a great retention rate, which means they do an excellent job of keeping students from flunking and/or wanting to transfer out. I also firmly believe a small, highly competitive LAC like F&M with holistic admissions does not admit anyone they do not believe will succeed. Every application is considered very carefully.
If you’re worried that your D will squeak in because she’s an athlete, (is she being recruited?) I’d say that’s less likely to be a problem than you think. There are a bunch of stories about athletes being recruited and then not getting in; to me, that says for some reason the school didn’t think the student was qualified once the transcript, etc was submitted.
Almost overwhelmingly, the thought on that thread was that if your D is a hard worker she’ll be fine. She wouldn’t arrive expecting to coast, she’s an athlete so she’s used to managing her time well, and she’ll get help if she runs into trouble.
I’m comfortable that although it will be a challenging place for my D, she’ll be fine and end up with an amazing education and opportunities. She’s not 100% sure she’s going yet, but the chances are pretty good.
And for what it’s worth, some people at Harvard say the hardest part about it is getting in. 