<p>Background: So, in middle school, I was pretty close friends with a guy a year younger than me (I was in 7th and he was in 6th when we met)…anyway, we were REALLY good friends (really clicked-really smart, funny guitar player…<em>see “what’s more attractive ?” thread</em> ) for two years, but then I lost track of him when I went to a different high school (the past two years-end of sophomore year now for me)…I saw him last summer and we were both excited to get in touch again, but we didn’t have pen or paper to write our numbers or anything down. Plus, my two guy friends who are the same age as me, and who were similarly friends with him (who I thought would help me keep in touch with guy), don’t really see him or talk to him because the school has over 3000+ people, whereas the middle school had a lot less. </p>
<p>Now: On a whim, I randomly searched for his full name on facebook, and found him (picture, current school, etc, definitely him)…now, how should I go about contacting him? What would you guys write in the message? I was thinking of just being like, Hi, it’s me! But, my facebook is just my nickname and first initial, so it wouldn’t be immediately obvious it was me just from the name. My picture is pretty old, but recognizable. So, I want to be non-creeper like/not seem like I was stalking him…I was just wondering how you would want to be contacted, or what would be a good idea to say.</p>
<p>Well, I lost contact with all of my friends from my old middle schoool (I moved when I was in 8th grade) and I was hesitant to “friend” them when I found them on facebook (2 years later), because I wasn’t sure they’d remember me, but I did to some of my closer friends and just wrote “Hey, remember me? It’s been forever…we need to talk!” and then gradually I got to facebook a lot of kids from my old school. Its a nice way to keep contact.
Just say something like, “Hey! It’s been a long time…we should get together soon. How are you doing?” nothing stalkerish about that.</p>
<p>Just send a message. Try to write something memorable about them. I saw my friend add another friend from our middle school that I knew. I just sent a message like “Are you still vertically challenged?” And then I ran into her after the ACTs today. Weird. But yeah, just send a message with a quirky memory in the message.</p>
<p>ok…are you a girl? cuz it sounds that way (“guy friends”, “stalk”, etc just indicate you’re a girl). well, good news is, i was in the same situation you were in. i was friends with this guy in middle school. i liked him. then, we grauated and went to different high schools. didn’t talk for 4 years. i got a facebook recently, found his name, and added him as a friend. no message. i didn’t want him to think i was being creepy or still liked him, so i just treated him as i did my other friends. he remembered me and we started talking again. we exchanged phone numbers and have hung out a few times. it’s great. go for it. if you’re worried though that he won’t recognize you, add a little message, like what alamode suggested. the worst case scenario is he won’t friend you. best case, he friends you and you become friends again (or just a causual friendship on facebook if nothing else). good luck.</p>
<p>Don’t worry so much about it - I don’t think it’s stalkerish. I have friends from elementary school on my facebook friends list (it also helps that the place I used to live has a huge facebook network), and not just my closest friends. It’s a great feature since I can chat with some old friends about how easy life used to be Just send them a friend request and a message. Maybe in your message reference something that might help them remember you…I’m surprised at how many people remember me (or how many people I remember)!</p>
<p>I get friend requests from people in my current school who I honestly don’t know. They apparently know me, but I don’t who they are. I don’t deny them because you never know when you’ll need a favor “from an old friend.” ;)</p>
<p>I’ve been wondering the same thing! there’s a guy I did a summer program with several time when we were 12-13ish…
recently searched on facebook and think I found him, but I’m not sure if I should add him.</p>
<p>I just ended up saying, “Hi, remember me? I haven’t talked to you since last summer! How are you doing?” …I don’t know if that was the COOLEST thing, but he accepted…yay thanks for advice</p>
Just send them a friend request and a message. Maybe in your message reference something that might help them remember you…I’m surprised at how many people remember me (or how many people I remember)!</p>