<p>D has bizarre scores too! Was told they were impossible. Was told she would never learn to read, but she did (AT 12 :eek:)! She can’t really “hide” her dysgraphia and go to school, so she’s learned to accept it, but I really understand, “I just want to be NORMAL” at these ages. I’m glad he’s got the tests! Good luck.</p>
<p>My dyslexic nephew is as momofthreeboys describes. He’ll walk into a room, and walk out fifteen minutes later with twenty new friends. But my dyslexic son is like Mitdu’s son: analytical, introverted, unemotional. My dyslexic brother is in the middle. So I don’t think momofthreeboys’ generalization holds. One is more likely to meet a gregarious dyslexic than an introverted dyslexic, I suppose, but that’s because one is more likely to meet a gregarious person than a less social person-- the gregarious people are out there meeting other people, and the less social people are home alone or with one or two friends.</p>
<p>Mitdu, It sounds as if your son has made some positive changes and is taking some responsibility. You have clearly tried to negotiate with him on an adult-to-adult level. If my son was bearing the financial burden of his “falls”, understood that his drinking and smoking was making it more difficult for him to succeed, recognized that there are disability resources that might help if he was willing to use them, knew that I would be supportive of psychological/counseling services to assist him, and was aware that I was available to problem-solve with him if requested, I would do my best to back off and let him learn from his mistakes and/or celebrate his victories.</p>
<p>My second semester was as if I did not care. I found it harder and harder to get out of bed. I did not want to go anywhere. I barely showed up to class. Actually first semester was my best, but I only failed one class, which put me on probation. Now I have been suspended. This is my first time as an freshman adjusting. I have learned from this experience ,and I am scared because I feel like there is nothing else! 
I do not want to wait a year just to start back ,and get finacial aid. I am trying to do summer shcool for the classes I failed, but coming up with the money is hard. I am poor! Well doing summer school help pull up my G.P.A for the classes I failed for second semester. How do I get back in school for the next section after beening suspended? PLEASE ,PLEASE help anyone give me some advice I am stressed. On top of that I hate living in Mississippi ,being orignally from Las Vegas I have did a shut down.</p>
<p>Miss.Dominique, your letter of suspension from the school should have given you the criteria to get reinstated. Usually it is only one term, not an entire year. Usually you have to apply for re-admission with what you have learned and what you will do to improve. It will also tell you if you are allowed to take classes in the mean time or not. Some schools prohibit transfer of any credits during suspension. Others require you to bring grades up in a community college prior to re-admission. Go to the community college admissions office and check it out. They will know what your options are, including funding options… </p>
<p>I also urge you to get screened for depression. Many of the things you say lead me to believe that the separation and adjustment were harder on you and could have led to depression and a vicious cycle depleting your energy. Do you have a doctor? If not see if there is a community health services or if you can access your university services. If you register in the community college they may have resources. Good luck. The best way forward is one step at a time.</p>
<p>Why are colleges giving precious financial aid to geology majors who have to retake algebra? Algebra is a high school course.</p>
<p>Mitdu, I feel your pain as my son refuses to have anything to do with the Disability services. I sometimes wonder how much higher his gpa would be if he accepted the help. Despite his going alone his gpa has steadily improved over the last four years. I wouldn’t pull him out of the university yet. Sometimes they just have to do it their own way.</p>
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Because the bulk of financial aid (federal, institutional, and private) is based on financial need, not on major nor on academic performance. This is an interesting topic to discuss in general terms, but in this context it’s probably not fair to Mitdu’s son, whose behavior to date (taking loans in his own name, refusing special assistance, smashing the limited expectations placed on him in high school) suggests the antithesis of an entitlement mentality.</p>
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Hmmm. If the experts have said success is impossible for him… it’s no wonder he doesn’t want to deal with any more experts.</p>
<p>As someone else has noted here, large public U’s have a financial interest in accommodating disabilities. They have a lot more experience with disabilities of all sorts (and students succeeding with those disabilities) than your high school could ever have. And they know he’s not dumb.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t pull him out, given that he’s made considerable progress in the second semester. I would try making a deal with him that, while he’s on probation, he will work with the Disabilities Coordinator and accept reasonable accommodations. If that meant paying for his retakes, I’d make the exception. I think that if he meets with her and hears her out, he may come away with a different understanding of disability resources. It’s not about fostering weakness and dependence; it’s about removing obstacles so that he can perform according to his capacity.</p>
<p>Agree with geek_mom re accommodations. Try to help him understand that getting the right accommodation is like getting glasses if you have poor eye sight. You would not expect someone to drive the car if they needed glasses. Do not expect them to perform at the same level as others if they need accommodations. Accommodations are not “coddling”. With them they can learn how to deal with the world on their own terms. It’s a process.</p>
<p>Good advice Geek_Mom. We were told quite the opposite of Mitdu. We were told that more often than not dyslexics have high IQs if there are no other issues. In fact, we were told that often that IQ vs. performance discrepancy is what leads to being tested for dyslexia. It also runs in families (CardinalFang’s post). In my son’s case it was discovered when he was 6 and scored 99th percentile on a CAT test in math skills and 9th percentile in the reading skills portion. We later discovered that he score the highest of our family on IQ. As to toadstool’s comment I think it is never a good idea to make a generalization about one specific instance.</p>
<p>My kids only worked with disabilities office because I insisted, since both missed > 1/2 a school year apiece due to chronic health issues that continue to this day. Both of them & the Disabilities Office agree that the kids will work with the office & the individual profs to get only the accommodations they need and we’re all happier with this arrangement.</p>