<p>OP, I know it’s difficult to live with people you don’t like. You do realize, though, that the person you do not like is soon to be a relative?</p>
<p>I am not sure how you expect your family to pay for an apartment for you…and all the expenses that go with living in an apartment…if they cannot help you pay for on-campus housing. </p>
<p>Unfortunately it sounds like money is a problem all the way around…for you, for your parents, and for your relative’s significant other.</p>
<p>How much longer do you have to go until your early graduation? Is there a way you could get housing on campus, perhaps by working as an RA?</p>
<p>If your name is on the lease or the mortgage, you should have a say.
If it isnt, then it would be nice if you had a say, but you may have to make small changes before that happens.</p>
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<p>OP - FWIW, I understood your post. You mentioned calling some extended family to intervene. If this is what I think you meant, is there a possibility of asking those relatives if you could stay with them until you finish school? Are they grandparents? Aunt, uncle, family friends? An unclean, unsafe, unemployed BF-GF, loafer would be more than annoying to me as well. If you cannot work something out, see what suggestions the counseling center has. Maybe you could share living space with some off campus roommates in the fall which could be much cheaper or develop a plan to work and study elsewhere and just be home to sleep and eat. You really can’t force this person to leave unless your parents want them out. It sounds like your parents are setting themselves up to support grandchildren as well. Good luck.</p>
<p>Let me be the outlier here and say the OP seems awfully whiny. Basically, you are living at home, and don’t like all the company — in fact, you resent that your parents are supporting this person instead of/in addition to supporting you. Who are you to call up other relatives and involve them in complaining to your parents about their choices? </p>
<p>Get enough income to move out. That is often not possible, so you can choose to stew and vent and feel imposed upon, or you can work towards a better understanding that life is most often not what we want, exactly, and the trick is gratitude for the circumstances you find yourself in.</p>
<p>Where is the “non legal tenant” staying that is a fire hazard? When you say “non legal,” do you mean illegal immigrant (I will ignore the AP PC new prohibition on the use of that term!)?</p>
<p>" I have plans to stop at the health center on campus for an appointment with a counselor."</p>
<p>I don’t know what this really means. However, if you start reporting “illegal” activity within your parents’ home or “fire hazards” or “health hazards” or the like, you may find your whole family without a place to live.</p>
<p>If there REALLY are hazards, they should be addressed. I’m only saying - be careful what you say and be SURE of what you’re saying and REALIZE the potential consequences.</p>