<p>I need some awesome parent advice here. If anyone is looking for details please pm me otherwise I will be as general as I can to protect myself. I would love to have at least one parent who I could actually discuss this with in a pm.</p>
<p>This frustration has been building since 2011 and is keeps getting worse. Finally, I decided to tell my parents that they can lease an apartment for me if they won’t kick this non legal tenant out of our house. I say non legal because the were the person stays is a fire hazard. I never liked this person but it is worse now because I have deal with the triggers they bring in that affect me. Non-legal tenant has problems keeping jobs, and cleaning to name a few issues. They were allowed to stay on a short term arrangement. It has been more than a year now and my definition of short term is a year. If anyone is a landlord could you tell me what you say a short term lease would be?</p>
<p>Well we got some really bad news today. Nobody likes non legal tenant but one person who lives here and that’s cause they are dating. Non legal tenant has decided to order an engagement ring that is coming today!! Relative has taken about 7 years now to get their BS and still hasn’t graduated yet. Non legal tenant has no plans to return to school and is completely satisfied working low paying jobs. </p>
<p>Is there anyway I can get my family to listen to me about this whole thing? I’m considering telling the extended family because I know for sure a few will be calling off the hook and one will be the worse nightmare and actually has been in agreement with me that non legal tenant should have never been allowed in. I have plans to stop at the health center on campus for an appointment with a counselor.</p>
<p>If I could give you one piece of advice, it is: learn how to write in a clear, concise, coherent way. No one can give meaningful answers if (s)he doesn’t understand the question.</p>
<p>Your parents have a tenant in their home. You are also living in their home. You don’t like the tenant and want them to leave. If your parents won’t kick him/her out, you want your parents to lease an apartment for you to live in.</p>
<p>There’s something about a ring. The tenant has ordered an engagement ring that should be coming in the mail today. He or she wants to marry a relative of yours that is also living with your parents. This relative has taken 7 years to get their BS degree, and has still not graduated.</p>
<p>You’re frustrated and upset because the tenant has been there for over a year and was only supposed to be there “short term”, is not clean, doesn’t hold down a job, creates a fire hazard, etc…and now maybe you’re afraid since he’s marrying a relative he might be there to stay?</p>
<p>LOL - Not sure I’m a genius. I don’t know if I deciphered it right or not. If not, I’m as confused as you are. If I did…I’m a little frightened.</p>
<p>Cromette, thanks for the clearer picture. However, based on my understanding, OP is living with a legal tenant (the relative?) who has a bf or gf who is a non legal tenant. Please clarify OP.</p>
<p>is this so-called “non legal tenant” the boyfriend (or girlfriend) of your brother or sister? and soon to be your brother or sister in law? That would not exactly be what most of us think of as a “non legal tenant”. We would call that… family!!</p>
<p>Sorry guys, when I’m mad my thoughts tend to run together!</p>
<p>Yes, but I cannot move out as I lost my job (position was eliminated) and I can’t get a dorm room due to the cost being so high. I’m not scared that they are here to stay because I plan on graduating a semester early and moving OOS away from my family. I live at home to keep the cost of college down because I’m on my own for that. If my loans don’t cover tuition then I’m on the hook for the rest.</p>
<p>No one likes him, my folks just agreed to help him get on his feet but he has been taking advantage of that. We don’t consider them family. I don’t care if my relative decides to go with them, but that is their choice to ruin their last year of school. They have no fin aid left, and no job.</p>
<p>Would it not cost less for your parents to pay for a shared dorm room than to lease you an entire apartment? And if you plan on graduating mid-year, it may be easier to relinquish a dorm room than to get out of a lease.</p>
<p>So a family member has a signifcant other who is living with the family as you are. I think you are stuck, my friend. It’s not wise to get nasty about these things when a ring and plans are involved. It’s not your your home in that you don’t own it, so you can’t kick any one out and it seems to me that money might be a bit tight in terms of getting you your own place.</p>
<p>All I can suggest, is to get up early and go to school, study, find a job, stay there all day and get home late so that you are spending as little time as possible at home. Get a big calendar and cross off the days until you are out of there.</p>
<p>Fuma, I sympathize. I also prefer not to live with my in-laws. However, my H and I own the house so we can dictate who can live in our house. Ditto with your parents. If your parents like to help mystery person X and his/her bf/gf then you must respect their decision. I hope that the discomfort you feel in your current living situation will give you enough incentive to find a job and rent your own place.</p>
<p>That said, have you tried talking to your parents how you feel? Tell them it is interfering with your studies. Do the couple pay rent? You said they don’t have jobs. Does your family provide free meals too? Is that why you are frustrated about the entire situation?</p>
<p>when you say illegal, do you mean your parents rent and they arent supposed to have that many people living there? they can get introube with landlord and potentially all get kicked out, especially if they want more rent</p>