<p>
actingmt, I know too many people whose children are struggling with mental illness to think that parenting can be reduced to a neat equation. Of course what we do as parents matters. But some wonderful parents can have pretty messed-up kids, and it isn’t because they didn’t raise their children The Right Way. And I know many adults whose success in life was hard-won because their parents were not up to the job, and their children persevered anyway. </p>
<p>I have three great kids, worked damned hard to raise them, and take credit for none of their success. My husband and I are thankful for the good luck we’ve had every single day. The hard work was no more than we owed those kids.</p>