Fathers: Tell me about Bachelor Parties

Parent Cafe
1

<p>One of my kids is involved in planning a bachelor party for his best friend, who is graduating this year. My son is the best man. A group of six or so guys who were close friends in high school are putting the event together. Two of them (including my kid) either are or will be in professional programs. Two of the kids were in ROTC and will be off to the military shortly. One failed out of college and has spent a few years in a minimum wage job. A few months ago there was a party and that boy started throwing punches at the others. He’s one of the group though, and is being offered another chance to join the party for the sake of the one getting married.</p>

<p>This is the first one of them to be married, and they’re acting like 13-yr-olds. I’ve been eavesdropping on some of the details, like the limo and the hotel suite. There’s a lot of hush-hush stuff that I’m not hearing though. All the news stories that I’ve ever read about bachelor parties are scrolling through my head. I’m envisioning police arrests, alcohol overdoses, etc. I’m thinking 21-22 yr olds, partying/drinking, and the situation are a recipe for disaster. I’m concerned that none of them (including my kid) are going to be mature that night. </p>

<p>Am I overreacting? I doubt that anything I say is going to make a difference about this…</p>

2

<p>Limo and hotel suite says to me – someone else is driving and there will be a place for everyone to crash, which seems actually more mature, if that makes sense – better to plan ahead for safety if they will be drinking.</p>

3

<p>I don’t know, Neon, but I would share your fears. My sons’ crowds are not the marrying sort and the only bachelor’s night that was done was not a big deal thing. Low key and no problems. But if some knucklehead books a club or even that crosses the line, they have too much too drink, the wrong sequence of events, and it can be a disaster. The recipe is indeed on for that. So can be prom, grad night, senior prank, 21st birthday celebration and anytime anyone crosses into these areas. As you say, however, how much impact can you make? I stress to all of my kids what the striking issues are, but I know I am ignored much of the time.</p>

4

<p>more than likely, they will not drink anymore than usual. they may have a professional stripper which is not all that bad. it is a business to the stripper and they have limits. sounds pretty harmless</p>

5

<p>Time to cut the apron strings mom.</p>