He can learn and do and face natural consequences of mistakes, lateness.
Too much parental engagement contributes to anxiety. More important to repair relationship than to focus on daily results.
His behavior does not sound personal against you and dad. Immaturity, teen phase.
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Edited to add: i wish you good luck! Breathe, you are doing the best you can! You are facing stresses and challenges like others have, it’s good you want to address issues. I am not criticizing you, I have had similar frustrations and learned as compmom , others below suggest.