So here’s my dilemma. I was accepted to a BS that I really love, and I feel connected to, but my mom says we have to visit the other schools too. I really want to commit now, since this school is a great fit for me and I really envision myself as a part of their community. What should I do?
Here’s my options:
A. Tell her I love this BS and that I want to commit now
B. Don’t tell her, wait, and spend a lot of time driving to a BS that I like, but not as much as the other BS
Any advice?
PS: My mom loves this BS too; but dad is not sold on either.
Have you seen either school in person? If not, I would tell your parents how connected you feel to your first choice but then also go visit both. You’ll be spending 4 (I think?) years there…it’s nice to able to set foot on campus (or drive through it) before committing.
You have until A10 to commit. There is no hurry. And you’d be surprised how many students change their minds about their first choices after visiting schools, although if all you can do is drive through that may not give you much to go on. Still, no rush to commit, you have plenty of time to connect with your future classmates at whichever school you eventually choose.
Are your parents concerned about how far the schools are from home? Your other threads indicate they might have other things to consider besides how much you love a particular school. Certainly tell your parents how you feel about this school and why, but keep an open mind about your other options.
Yes, as wise heads have noted, go visit. It costs you nothing but a little time. And these closer looks frequently change (and sometimes solidify) initial inclinations.
@lilyesh I had a similar problem when applying to college. What finally solved the problem, in my favor, was visiting. The student Q & A panel was illuminating - my parents realized, once they saw what the actual students were like, that it would be a horrible place for me.
Visit the school/s if you can. When my kids were applying I had clear favorites in my head from interviews but revisit day (and seeing the other kids and parents who were admitted) changed my mind a bit. It’s a long road if you make a hasty decision just because you want to “get started.” You have plenty of time, all summer, to start getting to know the kids.
