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This is so true. And looking back, things that seem awful at the time are sometimes a blessing. My husband lost his job back when we had a new baby and I had just quit my job to be a stay at home mom. Talk about having the wind knocked out of you. But looking back, what happened directly as a result of that, lead him to where he is now, which is thankfully employed with no end in sight.</p>
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<p>I’m not a believer but I am a Mom so maybe I can help you a bit with this part of it.</p>
<p>Please take your parents words to heart. They’ve seen how hard you worked to get the position and how disappointed you are, they don’t want you to add to your burden. Let them providing your housing be a gift, freely given and accepted. It’s just as important to learn how to graciously accept help as it is to learn how to give it. </p>
<p>You are a wonderful, young woman with so much ahead of you. There are going to be disappointments and things will go wrong. We are all inter-connected, the goal not to stand wholly on your own but to be part of a community and you clearly come from a good one and are buildilng a good one.</p>
<p>I sorry that this happened. This news is distracting you from what you need to focus on. I’ve learned, from similar life experiences, that I need to listen to Him and put the distractions aside and expect the best to happen.</p>
<p>I am sorry that this happened. This news is distracting you from what you need to focus on. I’ve learned, from similar life experiences, that I need to listen to Him and put the distractions aside and expect the best to happen.</p>
<p>I agree with pugmadkate. It is an honor and a privilege to be able to help our children when we are able to do so. Accept graciously. If you feel bad about it, remember this gesture when you are financially set in life. A nice trip when they are retired would probably be most welcome! :)</p>
<p>I am ever so sorry this happened to you. Life can be so unfair at times. This sort of thing does happen sporadically throughout life and it would be a huge step for you to learn how to emotionally deal with such set backs. I still have trouble with these things. It was not your fault, what happened, and it could not be prevented. You just have to deal with this, and you have. Let the housing department and whatever other department that is involved in this know what happened with a nice letter…yes, snail mail still works, and it can work a lot better than an e-mail or phone call because so few people write personal letters these days. But also send an e-mail reminder each month so that these folks don’t forget you if something comes up. Also ask them to think about you if they hear of ANY openings for such positions on campus since you have been bumped from this situation.</p>
<p>My kids are dealing with a summer job situation similar to this and they too are upset. As am I, even knowing that this is just the way things go sometimes. Take care, and good luck for the summer and the next school year. Your parents are probably so proud of you for making that effort in getting the position and are concerned about your emotional well being. I know I am hurt right now for my sons.</p>
<p>thank you all so much for the support 
I have moved somewhat past the shocked/depressed stage and am getting things done for finals and trying to “hope for the best but prepare for the worst”…in fact, I think having the pressure of finals has helped keep my mind busy and move forward. There is still a chance that I may get the position back if someone doesn’t make the necessary grades or something else happens. I have been assured several times–and by various people–that I am at the top of the list to be brought back if that happens. I sent a nice e-mail to several of the people in ResLife the day after everything happened thanking them for the opportunity and asking them to keep me in mind just in case (much like what you suggested, cpt). I received a response that they were impressed as a department with the way I was handling the situation and that they would love to have me next year if they can’t bring me back for this year.</p>
<p>Wishing you the best…your experience have already created a lot of good. The answers posted here will help many others and I feel the encouragement and positive thoughts…of all those that have posted here.</p>
<p>HisGraceFillsMe - I know you are a Christian, as am I.<br>
And other people IRL know you are a Christian. Maybe this is “happening” for others to see just how much faith you DO have and your reaction to disappointment. And they are watching how you handle this situation. If you do profess to believe in God and that he is your strength and savior, then act as such. This may be “happening to you” so that someone may see this and how you react and they may be curious about the Lord. Have you thought about that? This could be an unfortunate change in plans for you (yes, it sucks right now), but could be the beginning of a life in eternity for someone else. And that would be amazing! Ask your self if this situation will be important in 10 years? What is the answer? No? Then get yourself on “the 10 year plan”. I am on it, and it just eases so many situations. Unless it’s that time of the month, then it pretty much doesn’t work at all.
Let us know how you are doing, please. I really care about you.</p>
<p>I hope you go back and re-read this thread when finals are over and you have time to reflect, because there is a lot of good content.</p>
<p>On the random bad stuff/employment at wll front, you my want to reflect on the type of job you will have in the future. Most employers can fire you for no reason. Consider if you want to work for a branch of the government, or have a job where you will have tenure or join a union, in order to have a degree of job security. These types of jobs often get a bad rap, but now (at your young age) you’ve felt the sting of a loss of employment that had nothing to do with you or your skills. This is what the working world is like for much of the work force in the country. (Sort of makes you sympathize more with us old folks, right?)</p>
<p>I’m not trying to point you in one direction or another. I’m just saying that when you are trying to decide about your professional future, job security is one thing to consider.</p>
<p>I have this on my Facebook status today. I hope it will encourage you as it did me! :)</p>
<p>“Depression: Unhealthy mood caused by too much living in the past. Anxiety: Unhealthy mood caused by too much living in the future. Emotional stability: Forgiving the unchangeable and refusing to worry about the unknown…Ultimate solution: Peace
comes from a properly focused mind…” (Quote by Jim Millsap) Isaiah 26:3 - “The steadfast of mind You will keep in perfect peace, because he trusts in You.”</p>
<p>Thank you all again for the great advice and support.</p>
<p>Just as an update: I finished finals and am home for about another week or so before I head back up to Sonoma to work my summer job as an Orientation Leader.</p>
<p>I found out this morning that I earned a B+ (89%…argh!) in my theater arts class, so it’s looking like my grades will be where they normally are. I should find out the rest of my grades within about a week or so. :)</p>
<p>That’s great! Good for you. My fingers are crossed that things work out but no matter what, you have proven that you can succeed no matter what comes your way.</p>