What we don’t agree on is I view my kids at 18+ as people who should take on the responsibility of doing what’s right for them and I do not necessary hold other people accountable in providing an environment for my kids to do the right thing. That being said, when D2 was in middle school I found out someone in my circle was providing beer and allowing kids to smoke pot at their house, I stopped socializing with this person and D2 was not allowed to go to this person’s house again.
I would disagree about the majority of seniors being 18. It depends on the state. In our state, the cut off is Sept. 1st, but there are a few kids who might have a birthday after that date because they started school in a state where the cut off is Dec. 1st. My kid is actually a mid-September birthday, and was still 16 when she started her senior year and didn’t turn 18 until after she went away to college. Many of her friends had summer birthdays and did not turn 18 until after they graduated.
My kid’s school was Oct 1. D2 birthday was beginning of Nov and she had to wait for a year. Her school was fairly hard to get into, so a lot of parents also purposely held back their kids by a year to get that additional edge.
@oldfort, I’m pretty sure I never suggested either of those things. Maybe my memory is just gone. Probably from too much alcohol at parties when I was 18.
At this point I am not even sure what we are talking about any more, which is what usually happens when you get older.
Haven’t read the whole thread, but wanted to share an odd experience I had last night. .A friend of DH’s was in town and came over to visit. Conversation turned to college for his HS Sr dau (she is a sharp cookie). Anyway, apparently he found out, when he and his wife were out of town for the weekend, that dau, who had been given permission to go to house #1 for a supervised party failed to tell them that the party got moved to house #2, she stayed out later than permitted (he got the taxi bill) and she and others were served alcohol. Others smoked pot but she reportedly did not (? so she claims?) Well, he was PROUD that she was acting like a traditional teenager not complying with parental rules for once and failing to tell the truth (apparently either another parent called or the dau fessed up to mom). I was floored that he was taking pride in her antics. To each his own, I guess.
^^^ Ugh… just, ugh!
Really! His final comment was that this confirmed she was his kid and had his genes.
Wow. Something to be proud of. When my oldest was in 9th grade, waiting for a ride home from football, he heard a boy ask a dad where his son was, and the dad said “If he’s anything like his old man, he’s out trying to get laid”. Classy.
Ick… just ick.
There are many ways I hope my kids are not like me and I would be much more proud of them if they weren’t.
I am hoping he was kidding , with a tongue in cheek comment.