<p>My son attends the school that has shocked and horrified the OP. It does have a reputation as a party school. Whether the reputation is the same as reality is hard for me to say. Yes, there’s drinking although it seems to have its center of gravity off campus. Yes, there are probably drugs. “Embracing homosexuality” might be referring to the Campus Diversity and Inclusion program, which seems fairly active. There are also a number of religious organizations, including the Campus Crusade for Christ, Fellowship of Christian Athletes, Hillel and Intervarsity Christian Fellowship (I point this out in case the OP’s son hadn’t found these organizations yet and might be interested in learning more about them).</p>
<p>My son is an athlete and is apathetic about religion. His roommate is an athlete and is a strong Christian. Neither one drinks or does drugs. They’ve found a large, active, and fun circle of friends who have the same interests as they do. I’ve met several of them - nice kids, the kind I would welcome into my home.</p>
<p>I recently visited the dorms on a Saturday night. Unless things don’t really get swinging until after 11:30 pm on campus, I saw none of the 95% participation in drinking, drugs and partying that the OP mentioned.</p>
<p>Is this college perfect for everyone? Absolutely not. My older son would have been very unhappy there, but that’s because it doesn’t offer his major. However, I believe that it’s diverse enough that most students would be able to find a niche in which they’re comfortable, just like on almost any other college campus in California.</p>
<p>Agree with the substance of post 27. I don’t think the thread is correctly titled. I strenuously support the rights of gay Americans and consider myself to be morally upright.</p>
<p>I would consider any college that did not to be less moral than one that did.</p>
<p>I think ideas of morality differ. I consider the infliction of the death penalty to be immoral. I know that many do not.</p>
<p>You are asking for colleges with Conservative, Christian values. I honestly wish you good luck in finding a good fit for your child.</p>
<p>Is this your son’s concern, or yours? Do you not trust how you have raised your son? Or do you think he will ‘stray’ from what you’ve taught him? If so, why not just have him stay home, where you can control him better? </p>
<p>If your son goes to a school with behavior or views you do not approve of, there is no requirement that you son has to partake. Many campuses for example, have substance free dorms and even the biggest party schools likely have students that behave in a way that someone like yourself would be proud of. </p>
<p>Your son is what 18? Do you really think you have to be choosing what environment he is safe to exist in? Of course you do…why did I even bother to ask.</p>
<p>I have no horse in this race but why is it that anytime a fairly new poster doesn’t respond to answers to their questions within say, 4 hours, they are accused of being ■■■■■■?</p>
<p>Seriously, most people don’t spend <em>that</em> much time on-line.</p>
This looks designed to inflame and set off heated retorts and outrage - from someone who has only posted 3 times, all in the space of 10 minutes. I could certainly be wrong, but…</p>
Not to get off topic, but in general so do I. However if anyone deserves it Steven Hayes in Connecticut who just got 6 death sentences certainly does. It’s just too bad they can’t actually EXECUTE him 6 times. :(</p>
<p>One idea might be to find a college where the kid can be in Honors dorms. I’m not saying that honors students are all going to be non-partiers, but at least there might be a better chance to have quiet study amongst more serious students.</p>
<p>It is a combination of factors, such as in this case. An ‘out there’ and provocative post by a brand new poster, who doesn’t respond (despite obviously needing so much advice to even bother to write a post to a forum they do not participate on!). Surely we shouldnt’ spend that much time online but anyone this desperate you’d think would be checking in. Almost always the four hours turns into days.</p>
<p>I wonder if perhaps the OP is from a different country? It’s difficult to understand how an American parent would expect any but the most conservative of religious colleges to not be accepting of gay and lesbian students. </p>
<p>Our son is gay and we felt the burden was on the colleges to show us that our son would be welcomed and safe. Every college he visited or wrote to was more than happy to do so.</p>
<p>Also, the college in question has a Pride Center (Next to the MultiCultural Center and the Women’s Center). You would think that this would give the OP and her son a clue that the school is accepting of the diversity of it’s student body.</p>
<p>Pacific Lutheran or Wentworth might be worth a look if the kid wanted to move north of CA. </p>
<p>Truthfully, college tours can be harrowing even for liberal parents. One couple I know crossed Harvey Mudd off the list when the tour group passed a dorm and the parents could see that the trash dumpsters were overflowing with booze bottles. Way too much booze and no recycling! Neither parent was close minded about the college weekend party scene – but were reluctant to have DS wade into an ocean of booze.</p>
<p>williamsdad: Why hasn’t the OP posted again? </p>
<p>Good question. For the most part (with a few exceptions), I thought the responses were helpful and sincere and, if Jenae7 is still reading CC, that they find a “good fit” for their son.</p>
<p>Not in California, but Hillsdale College and Grove City College are two more schools with a morally conservative bent. I know that Hillsdale does not accept federal funds so that it can set the moral tone it feels is important.</p>