<p>I am by no means a hard partier, but I want to occasionally go to frat parties when my time permits it. The people I hang out with, however, have no interest in that. It’s been hard for me to meet other people, and I don’t feel comfortable going into a party alone. I don’t want to join a sorority for a variety of reasons. How can I meet some people to party with?</p>
<p>The people to party with are the people you have something in common with and want to spend time with. You can extend your social circle by talking with people in your classes and any campus groups you join. </p>
<p>It may be that your friends tend to be more introverted than you are and have no interest in parties- that happened to me in college. It was more interesting hanging out with my intellectual peer friends than going to dorm area dances (parties) of the era. You may talk to someone you know in either a frat or sorority to find out how things are done at your school. Or, if you live in a dorm find someone on your floor to explore the local party scene with you. Being with someone you know can be safer at the party and getting home.</p>
<p>Wear something more skimpy; unbutton that top button of your shirt; maybe show off the top strap of your thong a bit more; invitations to frat parties will come fast and furious.</p>
<p>Kidding. The advice from wis75 is right. Or: leave your comfort zone and go alone and see what friends you meet. Take the risk!</p>
<p>^^ NO, don’t go alone. :eek: It is never a good idea to wander around campus - or off campus - alone at night. Especially not to attend a party with alcohol where you don’t know anyone.:eek:</p>
<p>My daughter goes to frat parties, but usually with a group - and at the beginning of her freshman year, when she didn’t know many upperclassmen, I advised her to always go in a CO-ED group.</p>
<p>See if you can get a few of your friends to go with you - tell them you just wanna try something new. Ask them to go with you once, and if they hate it they don’t have to come back. Then you’ll get a sense of what you’re missing, and whether it’s something you’re interested in or not. You’ll also have a chance to meet people.</p>
<p>I get what you are saying Laf but have to disagree (at least a bit).</p>
<p>Going TO the party alone is not a big deal. Esp if the frat is on or next to campus and your campus is reasonably safe. Stay in well lit areas. Be smart and understand what Laf is saying.</p>
<p>When it is time to go; look for people leaving and headed your direction. Leave with a group. They’ll understand if you ask “hey are you headed towards xxxx?” and tag along. Or most campus have some form of escort-security service and plan your departure around that.</p>
<p>What you shouldnt do is wait around and hope you can convince some friends to go with you. It is college and you need to put yourself out there and open up your circle of friends. Be safe; laf is right; but dont miss out because you are afraid to reach out.</p>
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<p>^ The advice given by Lafalum is excellent. A young lady should never go to a party alone unless she is meeting good friends at the party. When you are alone you put yourself in a vunerable position. You especially do not want to consume alcohol at a party when there is no one there to watch your back.</p>
<p>Ditto on NOT going to a party alone. You always need someone to “have your back.” Even the “safest” campus holds many dangers when drinking is involved. Next Friday night (or after the break) ask around on your dorm hall to see if anyone is going to a party and ask to tag along. Surely, there are some more social girls in your dorm.</p>
<p>I think it depends on what you mean by partying. Without knowing the school you are at (or knowing much about it probably) I can’t speak to specifics, but there are generally a lot more parties at colleges then frat or sorority parties. There generally are a number of different types of parties out there based on experience and from what I hear from those graduating in recent years (as opposed to my day, when parties had rock music literally made with rocks…<em>lol</em>). </p>
<p>-Dorm parties. Usually dorms have organized social events/parties, a little easier, and generally these are open to all students.</p>
<p>-Student organizations. Where I went to school, groups as diverse as the science fiction club and the Asian pacific groups had some pretty cool parties, along with other groups (I was a member of the overarching group that handled student groups,so used to go to a lot of the parties). Not as raucous as the frat parties were, but often IMO were more interesting (ever see two physics students almost get into a fistfight over some arcane point of particle physics? <em>lol</em>).</p>
<p>-Private parties kids in dorms throw</p>
<p>-Off campus parties by students.</p>
<p>-With frat and sorrority parties, it depends on the school and the frat, some are wilder then others based on the stories I have heard and my own experiences (hey, I used to go to frat parties, and I used to referee football and softball games in the club/intramural program that the frats were part of, and I survived…<em>smile</em>). I would still be cautious, because what I found was the brothers at the frat houses were not as bad as some of the guests, who figured frat parties were free for alls…</p>
<p>I agree with others, it is easier going to parties with someone else or a group, gives you a base to operate with, and it is safer, depending on circumstances. It is obviously fairly safe to go to a dorm party where you live, whereas going to an off campus party, I would not go alone, especially a young woman. </p>
<p>As far as finding others, I would recommend a couple of things:</p>
<p>1)The group you normally hang out with may have the same problem you do, you may assume they don’t want to go to parties, but are hesitant assuming no one else does. If you haven’t already, find an interesting party, and ask others if they would like to try it…might be easier at a non frat party, frat parties have the reputation that scares some…</p>
<p>2)Talk to other people you know but don’t hang out with, very few people get upset if you make them aware of some sort of social event and see if they want to try it out with you…worse they are going to say is no IME.</p>