I have been at my new school now for roughly 3 weeks, and to be perfectly honest, it hasn’t been the funnest. Maybe my expectations have been too high all this time or something, but I have not had the greatest of time so far at all. Or perhaps maybe it’ll get better once classes start or something, I really don’t know. I recently transferred from a community college to this school in hopes of getting my bachelors in IT (there’s a good chance I might find myself back at that community college in the future, but that’s for another discussion), and to well…have the time of my life. Sadly, this has yet to happen.
I’ve researched this across the web and from what I’ve gathered, it’s somewhat harder for a transfer student to make friends as opposed to a freshman, I’m guessing because groups/friends have (for the most part) been well-rounded and established. I honestly never realized this until recently. No matter how hard I try, I just can’t seem to fit in with a group of people. I was just in the community center, and tried to make conversation with a group of guys playing the new Deus Ex game. I said “Whoa, is that Mankind Divided, the first one was amazing!” And I got no response. I then proceeded to talk about other stuff pertaining to the game and they continued to just blatantly ignore me. I then got a response from a guy saying “Ok…”. I just walked off after that.
My roommates are pretty cool, but unfortunately we have yet to establish any type of relationship. We kind of just pass each other by and say “hey” or “sup dude”, and then we both go back to our rooms. One of my roommates invited some female friends over a while back, and I attempted to make conversation with them (introducing myself, talking about degrees, etc) - I only got the cold shoulder, probably because I just butted right in. Nowadays I just take my food and go back to my apartment and eat there - I know it sounds pathetic but I simply do not like eating alone in the cafeteria. This happened quite a lot during my high school days and for some reason it kind of screwed with me it seems like.
I’ve tried to go around and talk to people, but I’m constantly paranoid that someone thinks I’m just a creep or something. It hasn’t gone so well really. Everywhere I look, the people never really look too happy, they look rather pissed, and I never get a warm, friendly vibe from anyone. From what I’ve observed, it seems to me like everyone already has their own group of people they hang out with, talk with, eat with, party with, chill with, w/e, and here I am as a lone transfer student with pretty much not a soul to talk to. Either that, or they simply don’t want to be bothered with some random transfer student. Idk, it just seems like everyone has already established his/her circle of friends.
Joining clubs is completely out of the question - my schedule this semester (and probably from here on out unless if I transfer back to my original CC, but yet again that’s for another discussion) is an absolute mother, and I don’t even know if I’ll have time to get a breath of fresh air honestly. My actual roommate (not my suitemates) hasn’t even showed up yet, and class starts on Monday. I’m getting this impression that he just quit on-campus housing or just moved. I mean it’s whatever, but I was hoping he could possibly introduce me to his friends, or show me around campus? Or just chill, or something idk.
However I would love to join a band or something, as I have a dire hard liking for music (cliche I know) such as Captain Beefheart, Modest Mouse, Frank Zappa, Joy Division, Velvet Underground, RHCP, etc. So I may look into getting involved with music on my campus, or something. But of course, I’ll barely have time to breath this semester so who knows.
This post is probably hella depressing, but honestly I haven’t felt more alone in I don’t know how long. The thing is - I realize it, but in a way it kind of doesn’t bother me, but in a way it does. I’m an only child, so I’ve always been relatively by myself. It’s never phased me though as I’ve always had good friends to back myself up on. Now that I’m in college (may I note this college is about 5 hours away), it just feels like I don’t have a single person to talk to. Nowadays I just wake up around 9, eat breakfast, maybe have a smoke outside, come back, play Xbox, read, listen to Frank Zappa, and watch music documentaries. Yeah, not too exciting but whatever. Hell, I have more friends on my Xbox Live account than I do in real life at the moment.
Does meeting people get easier once classes start, or something? Idk, like I said I know it sounds pathetic that I’ve only been at this school for 3 weeks, but it really does kind of suck knowing that people just simply aren’t welcoming at all.
Any advice on how to make friends easier? Or at least just someone to chill with? Thanks