For people with no social life

College Life
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<p>I think Darvit has good intentions and sympathizes with those feeling the loneliness in college, h.s. or life…and is reaching out in his own way. The question is: who of you who have been there reaches out to those who are socially isolated? Do you talk to them? Do you eat with someone eating alone? Do you reach out to them? Its easy to sit back and say you should do this or that but the truth is that after alot of rejection, many people stop trying…its safer. So while this advice is good, what is even better is for all of you looking down from your socially active lives, to reach out, pull someone out of their loneliness…instead of letting them be invisible, show them you care.</p>

<p>P.S. I am not devaluing the posts here offering suggestions, I think they are great but…social contact is what they need and you might just jumpstart their willingness to jump back into the ring.</p>

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<p>Thank you for your understanding words, Shadow07.</p>

<p>Once again, you have provided CC members with excellent advice.</p>

<p>I will stay tuned for Part Two. I hope other CC members stay tuned, also.</p>

<p>Best wishes.</p>

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<p>I thought this was written by a typical lonely person who isn’t a loner(since loners are people who actually prefer to be alone) who has gotten out of his shell and is really giving good advice to people… but guess what, that wasn’t it at all…</p>

<p>You sound arrogant, ignorant, full of yourself. Why? You generalize too much… assume that all the social outcasts are generally the same–they’re in fact VERY different from each other… many diverse groups, mind you–and that there are solutions that solve all. </p>

<p>Most of these outcasts don’t wanna be alienated… but not all of them are who they are because of what THEY’re doing themselves–or not doing, for that matter. Sure, a lot of things can be made better if most of them did something different for themselves… but just as society decides for the most part the success of individuals, society also dictates social roles to certain people at certain times (don’t even argue with me without really reading what I write). </p>

<p>Besides, you have no idea whatsoever what many of these people have to go through, be it physical/psychological/emotion conflicts, childhood trauma, birth defects, etc. All in all, there’s always at least one thing that can be deadly enough to one’s social life to prevent him/her from having a larger social circle or being happier with their lives, with these people. </p>

<p>What does it mean to be an individual? Well, society shapes that for the most part as well. There IS no individualism, really. If there was, this goddam post wouldn’t even exist all over the world… 'cause if people really had an individualistic view of the world, outcasts wouldn’t be outcasts, and there wouldn’t be any groups at all… </p>

<p>Lemme reword that. There wouldn’t be any groups but one… and that group will be called human beings. HUMAN BEINGS. Yeah, human beings, ya dummy. ‘Cause that’s what we fkin’ are. It shouldn’t matter how we’re like, we’re all human and all have one life to live. We were all born to live and live to die. So shut the heck up and stick a crayon on your brain.</p>

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<p>Even though this thread is two years old, TC obviously lacks a basic knowledge of human psychology. Not everyone can go out to any place and make friends nearly instantly. Some people are more introverted or not as comfortable in their own skin as you are.</p>

<p>Also, the way you phrased your first post just makes you look condescending and trying to give yourself a pat on the back. It’s like one of those self help authors who promise you to be just as successful as they are, but that would require people to be just like them.</p>

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<p>?!? I don’t find the OP or TC especially condescending. But post #23 is disturbingly hateful. What is your point? Your argument about individualism is so muddled. No wait, I seriously don’t want to know…CC is not the best place to get advice regarding lonely, awkward introverts.</p>

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<p>i think OP wrote this to justify to himself that he has friends</p>

<p>and why was this bumped</p>

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<p>I think it was kind of condescending because of the tone he took, like he was stooping down from his high position on the social ladder to talk to social losers, or whatever.</p>

<p>But I honestly don’t have any idea about #23 either.</p>

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<p>Let’s not argue about a two year old thread. We are certainly not this hard up for material!</p>

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<p>I don’t know, it gets kind of amusing sometimes.</p>

<p>I’m a sick person.</p>

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<p>Oh give the guy a break- he’s just trying to help. Granted, he does come off as overtly condescending, but I’m sure that’s not what he intended. And in response to Northstarmom, his advice may have been slightly cliche- but lets be honest, is there really a avant-garde methodology to winning over the goodwill of others?</p>

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<p>“we’re gonna die like this you know, miserable and old”</p>

<p>Get yourself some Taking Back Sunday.</p>

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<p>What about the people who prefer to be alone?</p>

<p>To some a life full of people would be a living hell.</p>

<p>You are assuming that everyone who is a loner/anti-social thinks the same. </p>

<p>It is true that some are miserable and are generally depressed twenty two hours a day.</p>

<p>However, some are happy with the way they are.</p>

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<p>Axion is absolute correct. The OP just assumes that every “lonely” person is just miserable and longing for companionship. Personally, I enjoy alone. The presence of hordes of people around me just sucks the life out of me.</p>