<p>After reading many of the threads on colllegeconfidential related to freshmans having social problem, I get the impression that guys tends to have more trouble socially as compared to girls. Is it because girls are naturally talkative and social and therefore have less trouble transitioning? As a guy it’s kind of hard for me to image girls being loners but what know I’m still in high school. Any of you disagree with me?</p>
<p>Girls, in general are more talkative/social. They tend to gossip and do things together which is why they are so social. This is just a gross generalization although I do believe this would apply to the majority of girls. Girls also read body language really well too.</p>
<p>Somebody on here recently said more boys than girls use forums. That’s not been my experience but is a variable that should be considered.</p>
<p>People also always assume I am a boy.</p>
<p>I think the general assumption is that everyone on CC is a guy, until proven otherwise. Sometimes I am impressed just how often I am corrected when I am using a male pronoun to refer to a poster. There might well be more female than male posters here, but it’s not exactly easy to count and find out…</p>
<p>I just think girls are better at hiding their social issues. I’m one of those girls, I get along great in a classroom or business setting however put me in <em>just</em> a social setting I have no idea what to do. I usually avoid parties to the best of my ability, if go to one I am the one standing there by myself looking akward.</p>
<p>Which is funny because I think females are actually more represented in top colleges than males, if I am remembering correctly.</p>
<p>It’s actually assumed I am a male everywhere online, and people are SHOCKED to find that I am a girl. I don’t get it! XD I just assume that people always assume male since “he” is still the traditional default pronoun, but I usually guess.</p>
<p>I agree with corey91. Girls have their own issues too, but they’re different. They’re a little harder to see too. </p>
<p>Some girls have only a few people they consider friends, but they’re just always together. Sometimes, girls will open up to me and admit that they wish they could meet more people. Girls like to stick together in groups (for god knows what reason) and that tends to scare people away (especially guys). I dunno if it’s just me, I just think girls seem to be with the same people all the time.</p>
<p>Also, girls are more passive. In the whole dating game, girls tend to wait for a guy to come to them. So while a guy is scrambling over how to even approach a girl, the girl is perplexed over why she’s never approached. Eh… I’d say girls have it easier from this perspective.</p>
<p>The OP does have a point though. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I can’t think of very many girls who have…you know, hobbies. Socializing is such a big part of their day and even when they’re alone, they’re often IM’ing, texting, or talking on the phone. Guys, on the other hand, love to spend time doing more “antisocial” things (specifically video games). I guess this makes it so that girls have an easier time talking to people.</p>
<p>Yeah… and don’t forget that there are generally more guys on forums than girls. That’s a huge factor here.</p>
<p>well it depends person to person cuz so guys are very social and some are same and same with girls , i wonder why there is more guys on forums than girls??</p>
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<p>I think it’s because, generally speaking, guys tend to be more familiar with computers and are “nerdier.” Neither of which contribute too much to one’s social skills ;)</p>
<p>Maybe all the girls are all off with their friends so they don’t have time to sit on the internet. :P</p>
<p>I dunno, I guess I am a strange girl. I have been adminning forums since I was like 12 and the only reason I quit WoW was because I couldn’t afford time to play anymore. And my friend that plays and I stopped talking so I didn’t have anyone to play with. Sadcries. :(</p>
<p>I <3 Gamer Girlz</p>
<p>haha WCF thats probaly true but they is also social girls who are forums, and girls can be nerdier too:) haha</p>
<p>WCF, you make a really good point about how girls like sticking together. I’ve notice that trend too in high school but I thought it would be different in college.</p>
<p>I’m currently a first-year student at UCLA and I’ve noticed that both guys and girls can have equally hard time making friends in college. Most students are going to a college where they don’t know anyone (or very few others) so everyone is pretty nervous even if they don’t show it on the outside. The thing is some people are better at making friends than others especially girls since most girls like socializing. This, however, does not mean every girl will be good at making friends. At UCLA I’ve notice a few girls (in this case asian girls) who do not really leave there room or even attempt to connect with other people on the floor. This may be a personal choice which is totally fine or these girls may be shy; either way, most of the time you’ll never know why they choose to keep to themselves. The same goes for guys but since societal norms maintain that guys be more poised, we don’t go out of our way talking to everyone. Still you will find some guys who tend to keep to themselves for whatever reason. </p>
<p>In college girls do tend to stick together (at UCLA it seem as if girls cannot do anything by themselves like laundry, errands, walking to class etc )and that sucks because it makes it harder for us guys to approach them haha. One way to get around that is to have a group of friends around to and it makes it easier to approach them.</p>
<p>There’s got to be more guys here than girls, like any forum (minus messageboards that specifically target a female audience).</p>
<p>I go to a couple other messageboards - one for weightlifting/ cardio exercise and another is just entertainment/ humor/ talking about anything under the sun - and both are even more dominated by guys than this one is. There are girls there, but it’s always 20-30% of users at best.</p>
<p>Guys are just more often the introverted geeky loner than girls are, for whatever reason. Not to stereotype but you know what I mean.</p>
<p>One girl saw me on a messageboard before and did not even know what it was or what a “messageboard” was. It’s just like why girls play less video games; I guess it’s not as typical a choice as other things.</p>
<p>I run a harry potter roleplay forum that is almost evenly split, slightly more girls than boys. XD</p>
<p>Haha. I am quite a social girl. I am a highschool senior and I have friends in all different groups at my highschool. I sometimes go to parties, I sometimes go to the movies… I just like to be out with people, but I definitely still devote large amounts of time to the internet.</p>
<p>Everyone is shocked to hear a good part of my youth was playing MMORPG’s or playing XBOX.
I have always clung to the internet when I was younger because I was very timid and shy, but even though I’ve grown as a person I still definitely like the anonymous advice found at forums. Personally though, I have to say my internet use was motivated for different reasons than most guys. When I played Runescape, I of course liked to be high-leveled etc, but I loved speaking with people. When I played Xbox, I liked playing xbox live because I could speak with people. I have always enjoyed socializing whether it was on the internet or in person. Now that I’m older, I spend a lot less time on the internet because the social void I was missing in my life when I was younger is finally filled in “real-life”. Obviously though, there is something about the internet/worldwide web that can’t be found in everyday real life encounters, hence why I still am online.</p>
<p>Psh, what the hell is it with girls and trying to claim ‘nerd cred’? Like “Teehee! I’m the captain of the cheerleading squad now but I totally built ham radios and played WoW and furry roleplayed when I was younger!” Social signaling at it’s most obvious ;)</p>
<p>Guys have more trouble socially because… well, I have no idea. But sitting around on a stupid internet forum trying to analyze it will hardly help the losers of the world. Read some books or get a haircut if you’re so desperate for more social contact.</p>
<p>“I just think girls are better at hiding their social issues. I’m one of those girls, I get along great in a classroom or business setting however put me in <em>just</em> a social setting I have no idea what to do. I usually avoid parties to the best of my ability, if go to one I am the one standing there by myself looking akward.”
SAME. we should be friends, haha.</p>
<p>as a girl who was REALLY shy when i was younger, i still go through spans of time where i feel totally anti-social. actually, even when i do go out/etc., i still like having a lot of time to my self, in my room. i like being on the computer. i guess it’s the whole thing of there’s no fear of being judged & u can just be yourself. it probably also relates to the fact that i have very few friends that i can trust/still hang out with. hopefully i’ll learn to be more comfortable in social situations when i’m in college, though. i would love that.</p>
<p>“Guys, on the other hand, love to spend time doing more “antisocial” things (specifically video games).”
that’s definitely me, too :P</p>
<p>“Psh, what the hell is it with girls and trying to claim ‘nerd cred’? Like “Teehee! I’m the captain of the cheerleading squad now but I totally built ham radios and played WoW and furry roleplayed when I was younger!” Social signaling at it’s most obvious”
…what?</p>
<p>ok the truth is that its not any easier for a girl either. it depends on what type of girl you’re talking about for the most part. shy girls may not be exactly “socially troubled” but they’re not inclined to form easier social relationships either. that being said, same goes for nerdy/shy guys i assume. so it really depends on your nature rather than gender.</p>