<p>In that previous thread about frequent spouse arguments, I posted a comment about asking my H which 5 faults am I allowed to have without any complaints from him. I caught him off-guard, he couldn’t name any, but I could name several that he’s been given a “permanent pass” on. He didn’t like realizing that he expects perfection (but certainly doesn’t deliver perfection…lol).</p>
<p>Now, we’re all human, so shouldn’t we each be allowed to have 5 faults without hearing complaints from our spouses?</p>
<p>What 5 faults should you be allowed to have (without complaints) and what 5 faults would be be willing to “hush up” about in regards to your spouse?</p>
<p>I’m not talking about big things…like drug use, adultery, over-spending, dangerous driving, etc. I’m talking about smaller faults…like maybe leaving the bathroom counter a little messy, forgetting to replace the TP roll, not good about fixing things, bad cook, or other small annoyances. </p>
<p>BTW…one of my sister’s is a therapist, and when I told her about “the 5 faults” thing, she said that she’s going to introduce it in her practice. She does think that some spouses demand perfection and need to accept a few of their spouse’s shortcomings without complaints. By defining some, it may help a bit. lol</p>
<p>I like this concept. Might be able to stop being annoyed by every single one of DH’s annoying <to me=“”> habits. Now if only I could narrow the 100,000 down to five. . .</to></p>
<p>Hmm. Let me see. He’s allowed to snore, I guess. I won’t try to make him get interested in the yard. He’s allowed to leave toast crumbs on the counter. He can keep the basement as messy as he wants to and …he’s permitted to nod off at just about any time and in any place he wants to. Other than that, everything is fair game.</p>
<p>He’s willing to live with the fact that since I went back to work full-time, I don’t cook dinner. The reason I went back to work is to help pay for college, which we 100% agree is worth all kinds of sacrifices.</p>
<p>I’m willing to live with the fact that he will never be a neat-nik, and I don’t mind picking up after him to a certain extent. He has come a long way in this department, though. :)</p>
<p>This reminds me of an old adage for wives, but it should definitely go both ways:</p>
<p>“Be to his virtues very kind,
Be to his faults a little blind.”</p>
<p>I like this thread; thanks for starting it!</p>
<p>My husband is so wonderful, but I do tend to get annoyed by some things he does. The faults I will make a conscious effort to overlook:</p>
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<li> He is not very punctual.</li>
<li> He tends to lecture the kids and me (he doesn’t think of it that way, but he does go on and on and on…).</li>
<li> He’s usually very neat, but he cannot for the life of him hang up the towels neatly, so that they dry well.</li>
<li> He tends to think out loud, throwing out wild ideas before he’s really considered them.</li>
<li> It is very hard for him to relax. At all. Holidays tend to be difficult, because he goes nuts when he’s expected to not do much. For example, he will decide that the house HAS to be cleaned and reorganized on Mother’s Day, Christmas, etc., and the entire family will pitch in, by golly! Now that I have realized that about him, I try to head him off at the pass and ask a few days BEFORE the holiday what he is likely to go on a rampage about. :)</li>
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