<p>Shrinkrap, I already admitted in a recent reply that I’M the freshman girl :)</p>
<p>Whatever…</p>
<p>Good, you’re still here. What do your parents think about the relationship?</p>
<p>Now you say you’re a freshman girl. You have many previous posts saying you are a senior girl looking for college advice.</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/what-my-chances/985454-senior-year-important.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/what-my-chances/985454-senior-year-important.html</a>
^here’s one of them.</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/what-my-chances/968290-schools-northeast-i-always-chance-back.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/what-my-chances/968290-schools-northeast-i-always-chance-back.html</a>
^and another</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/what-my-chances/968104-chance-northeastern-schools-latin-chick-ill-chance-back.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/what-my-chances/968104-chance-northeastern-schools-latin-chick-ill-chance-back.html</a>
^yet, another thread</p>
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Didn’t someone else point out that you’ve recently posted as a senior girl? (edit: above post seen after writing this)</p>
<p>I know a 19/20 year old girl who has a 36(+ now) year old boyfriend. They live together, and her mom and sister lives with them, paying them rent. Seems like a weird arrangement. She says: 1.) age is just a number; 2.) she doesn’t want kids; 3.) marriage is just a piece of paper that makes it harder for them to leave if they decide they don’t like each other. Also, one of my friends has a younger sister, who, when she was 16/17, was mysteriously spending long periods of time with a 40 year old man. I don’t think either of these girls made the right choice, though they’re the extremes.</p>
<p>I’m not a parent, but I’ll offer my advice: 1.) Don’t lie about who you are. 2.) If you were actually a freshman girl, I would advise you to not go out with a senior boy, for a variety of fairly obvious reasons.</p>
<p>I’ll bet she is indeed a freshman girl, not a senior girl. Just a hunch.</p>
<p>OP, here’s the thing. Although you are only a few years apart from this boy in age, you’re far apart in terms of the stages of your life. There is a gap in maturity and experiences that wouldn’t be present in, say, a 24 year old and a 28 year old. But the fact is you aren’t 24. You are 14. You think you’re mature for your age. Every 14 year old thinks this. The line about how “I could pass for a sophomore” and “I’m well-dressed” was actually what made me intially think that you were a freshman girl. (Then I saw you were supposedly the guy and was confused . . . then I saw that you were indeed the girl and thought, “Ahhh.”)</p>
<p>You have a little crush on this guy. Well, that’s fine . . . as long as you realize it’s just a crush. Do not date this guy. You’re in wildly different phases of your lives. (It could also get him in trouble with the law for statuatory rape, depending on your state.)</p>
<p>Jessica…I need a clarification…</p>
<p>Are you a freshman girl who wants to date a senior boy? </p>
<p>Are you a freshman girl who wants to date a senior girl?</p>
<p>Are you a senior girl who wants to date a freshman boy?</p>
<p>OR </p>
<p>Are you a senior boy who wants to date a freshman girl?</p>
<p>Now…for my opinion. Dating alone with one other person (regardless of age) was something we didn’t permit our kids to do until they were 16. Most freshmen are not 16. Until that time, parties, groups going out together, etc…were fine, but not a date just with one person.</p>
<p>Personally I think the age difference and maturity difference and the expectations…are just too far apart for a 9th grader and a 12th grader. The answer would be no here…but it really wouldn’t have come up in the discussion because of the no dating until 16 rule.</p>
<p>Thumper, I’m a freshman girl wanting to date senior boy</p>
<p>Then all the threads about being a senior girl looking into colleges are lies? Sorry, but I wouldn’t want my s’s dating someone dishonest, regardless of age</p>
<p>And our supposed freshman girl is going to continue with this thread until she finds someone who tells her what she wants to hear, while ignoring 3 pages of advice telling her this is NOT a good idea.</p>
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<p>The OP posted this on another thread. </p>
<p>Please OP…be honest here.</p>
<p>Long story:</p>
<p>Her name is Jessica.</p>
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<p>My kids would think it creepy for a 17 year old to date a 14 year old- boy or girl. They can’t imagine what they would have in common. It seems the 17 yo would have to be a bit immature.</p>
<p>Well Billy, if she/he is 17 she/he is NOT a freshman…I hope.</p>
<p>This OPs story is sure an inconsistent one.</p>
<p>Regardless…I would say NO to a freshman (of any gender) dating a senior (of any gender).</p>
<p>Too late to hope for honesty. Looks like the HSers in the “chance me” threads wised up quick and didn’t respond to the multiple "buuuuummmmpp"s. We parents are the silly ones.</p>
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<p>Yes, this. My first thought was “Why on earth would a 17 year old WANT to date a 14 year old?”</p>
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Could be that none of the 17, 16, or 15 year olds want to date them. Or they fall in love. That last one is rare, though, and not really a good justification because of how hard it would be to tell.</p>
<p>Hm, is it bad that I feel like an age difference matters less if the older one is female? Yeah, that seems bad. But 17-14 is bad either way. And illegal in many states, if sexual.</p>
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<p>How can you possibly know? “She” could be an 87-year old man talking about a 74-year old woman, or a Martian talking about a Venusian, or a super-intelligent (well, relatively) aubergine talking about a sentient pillowcase. The details shift every other post.</p>