Son is more talkative. He also grew a couple of inches.
I am worried that he doesn’t fit in and feel lonely. He seems ok. He said the party and drinking is not for him.
On the plus side, he likes the challenges from schoolwork and the freedom.
How’s your kid?
My S is not a talker. It’s been hard to assess his adjustment to his school up to now. I found out a few things this week that made me feel better. He mentioned classes, teachers, grades, friends, and all seem good. My S has not been to a party yet- no interest in drinking at all. Luckily he’s found friends to do other things with- a little gaming, cards, movies, etc. The most noticeable change was the full beard.
My sophomore has been very moody and out of sorts all week.
D is not a drinker or partier but has a roommate and a good friend who don’t either so she has people to do things with on weekends. She was glad to be home and actually begged off from doing some things with her old HS friends to just be with family. She expects to see them on her longer winter break. She calls and texts often, so there were no surprises in how she’s doing/feeling/looking, but she was pretty crabby last night as she packed to leave today. It reminded me a lot of when my older 2 kids had to go to their dads-they were happy to go, but the change of homes always bothered them.
Freshman year is TOUGH! Being on your own is very different from high school. You have to be accountable, stay on schedule, use some self discipline, do your own laundry…lol. Keep in mind, these kids feel orphaned for a while…they don’t have their family support systems close at hand, they’ve been separated from all the kids they grew up with…it’s a great big alien world full of weird roommates, difficult classes, student loans and scrambled expectations. It takes a while to rebuild a good support system of genuine friends in a new place. Even if you find really cool people who fit well (sometimes easier said than done), it takes time to establish the kind of intimacy you had with friends back home. Freshman year leaves a lot of kids kinda shellshocked. By the end of the year, things usually feel more comfortable:)
“He also grew a couple of inches.”
do you mean that literally?
also how old is he 18-19?
I am curious . I have heard of that but everyone I grew up with had a growth spurt around 15 or so and than just stopped…myself included.
Boys can continue to grow until they’re past 20, I believe. My son did. Girls usually stop growing closer to 13 or 14, but my D just turned 17 and grew this first semester.
Yes. He is 2" taller and he is 18. It has something to do with the dorm food. We eat rather bland at home; no soda and limited junk food.
“It has something to do with the dorm food. We eat rather bland at home; no soda and limited junk food.”
Haha. I think it has more to do with hormones and differing growth patterns, not the food and definitely not junk food and soda, unless he was eating so little at home he was malnourished. 
D2 stopped growing at 12, then grew an inch at 17.
When she was home briefly for Thanksgiving we noticed how much she had matured. As a sophomore, she didn’t seem like a kid any more, she seemed more like a young adult. There was a change freshman year, but the transformation this last couple months made it so obvious.
My friend who had only sisters and only daughters didn’t know that boys often grow until they are 20. And the type if food is gonna be unrelated in a growth spurt that took place 3-4 months after he left!!!