@powercropper I actually re read your post several times yesterday. It was a social experiment for me. I waited to be asked about my life or even how my sons doing. In the meantime I participated in all other conversations and asked questions etc. etc. bottom line is that I left late last night to come home and enjoy my Sunday. It was exactly as I feared. What I have learned is that if i met my friend today, she wouldn’t make it to my “inner circle” of people. That’s good to know but hard to acknowledge.
So glad you were able to detach and objectively study the interactions. And bonus points for leaving early.
You now have information that can propel you to make changes moving forward.
Today is for you. Rest and relax, or energize and recharge, whatever suits your mood. Chocolate therapy is another option.
Ah, so your own sister invited herself?
Sounds like you took the high road without a huge compromise for yourself.
Yes, it is sad when friendships change course.
The good thing is that you sound amazing and will eventually fill in her space.
threebeans - i’m sorry to hear it worked out like this. While it’s good information to have, I’m sure you’re sad at how it’s unfolding. How are you doing with your son off at school?
Great advice from Powercropper. I’m glad you went, as you would always have wondered. I’m glad you came home Saturday night, and not stick around for something you deemed not fun. What’s the saying? Your friends are there for a reason, and season or a lifetime. You might have thought she was a lifetime friend, but really is one of the other. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t play an important part in your life, just not what you thought. It hurts right now, I know.
I haven’t heard that saying before @conmama but I will remember it because it’s so true! We had a good run of 20 something years, I will maintain lunches stuff with her but she’s not “my person” anymore. I had a great day on Sunday and finished with a great book club meeting where we talked about ideas and events and history and, yes, our kids and lives. It was exactly what I needed! And @eyemamom - I’m doing good! He gets care packages from me every two weeks or so because I see things and think he would enjoy them. He is trying something new every single week and taking full advantage of being in an amazing new city (New Orleans). His happiness helps my happiness.