I think she should do what she wants to do. You should do what you want to do. It sounds like you want to go to Alabama and she wants to follow you there.
You cannot convince her about finding more school without her thinking that you want to get rid of her.
She’s seen pictures of girls at Alabama and she wants to go there to keep you from getting out of line :-).
Take one day at a time. Let her follow you to Alabama. If it turns out to be a mistake, you can both add it to your list of “mistakes I made in life”.
Don’t plan for a break up. Maintain a positive attitude. If that turns out to be wrong, there you go, chaulk up another mistake.
Don’t be afraid of mistakes. Making new mistakes in life never gets old. I’m always finding new ones and I’m in my 50s.