<p>I do the same on FB with all three of them :-)</p>
<p>With my S, my primary means of communication is Google chat, which is fine with me, I don’t like talking on the phone anyway. If he goes too long without calling his mother, I will let him know on chat that he needs to call.</p>
<p>Wait until they de-friend you on FB. That hurts.</p>
<p>if you dont comment on their stuff. You will not be unfriended!</p>
<p>LIKE it a lot :-)</p>
<p>I read a lot here about it is ok for college kids not to communicate, reply, show common courtesey to parents, because they are too busy. My feeling is, “Well, I am busy too.” But I never forgot to pick up my kids (only once or twice), buy them clothes, make them food, read to them, because I am too busy. If I bother to send my kid a package (which entails me getting on the internet, find the item, type in my credit card and her address, then press send), the least she could do is to send a thank-you text or email. </p>
<p>I don’t give my kids a pass to not communicate with me because they are busy. I think it is just an excuse.</p>
<p>Even thought they are divorced, my father told me that a real man will call his mom between happy hour and dinner and talk for at least five minutes everyday for the rest of his life. </p>
<p>I have never missed a day calling her.</p>
<p>D1 used to call me when she was walking to classes. She calls me (almost daily) now when she is on her way home from work, and it is often after 9 or 10pm of her time.</p>
<p>Bookmarked. Six weeks and two or three of son’s promised weekly calls.</p>
<p>Three years ago, D called a few times a day, walking to and from. Found out later her frequent FB posts reflected her loneliness. I kept posting “get off!” and she unfriended me. All for the best.</p>
<p>my S2, college freshman, asked in a glum face two days before we drove him to school "Sooooooooo, how frequently do you REQUIRE I call? I said, I have a very minimum standard. If I don’t get a single line text once a month “Alive”, I may start feeling like I should do something!</p>
<p>He calls home for 1-2 hour video skype. He emails papers he submitted in his classes for our entertainment. He sends LONG status update emails. Oh, he is not homesick. He is pretty happy. If he does not call for a week or more, I let him. The week after, he will call three-five times. I leave it completely up to him how he communicates with us. (We had the same policy with the S1 (third year) - he talks to us constantly.)</p>
<p>Oh, by the way, this is a kid (S2) who behaved like a renter the whole year until he went to college. The amount of “talk” I had with him this month is more than all the talks we had ever since the ED decision came out, and he felt like he sprouted a pair of wings with a car and care free second semester HS senior year schedule. </p>
<p>I guess it depends on what kind of kids we are talking about. My S2, especially, is the kind of kid who will walk the opposite way if he feels like somebody is imposing on him.</p>
<p>Dropped DS1 off 1800 miles away last year. This was the only communication:
week 1 text: can you check on my scholarship $? Hasn’t hit my account yet.<br>
week 2 text: Can you send my AP scores to the registrar please?
Week 3 text: can I put my skydiving lesson on the credit card?
But when he can home for the Holidays I got HUGS, actual heartfelt HUGS. made up for alot.</p>
<p>My d actually emailed and said that she enjoyed seeing us at parent’s weekend! I was on cloud nine!</p>
<p>I think it is an excuse too but I understand to a degree!</p>
<p>GRRR!!! Well here is latest example of the teen brain! I finally got to speak with 18 yr old Frosh via vid chat on Monday nght. I told him that he did not need to call daily but i missed hearing from him and would like to speak once weekly to which he suggested “how about Thurs? " I said “that would be great.” Proceeded to have a wonderful catch up call. When we were saying good-bye I told him he needed to call his 12 yrd old kid bro cause he has been out of sorts. He said he would call him Tues in the pm.(Reminded him again when he called Tues am to tell me he got his box, CALL YOUR BROTHER). So after school yesterday kid brother went home and patiently waited and waited and… by 8 it was evident the call was not forthcoming so I suggested he call big bro (call was not ans) so off to bed he went with the saddest puppy face ever. At 11:15(PM) I found him on FB and chewed him out. HE WAITED ALL DAY FOR YOU, THEN CALLED YOU AND YOU DID NOT HAVE THE COURTESY TO CALL HIM BACK” Said in CAPS for effect, he says “I forgot” so I say I DONT CARE that YOU FORGOT.Then says “Don’t you think I feel bad, mom?” I said CALL HIM and you wont feel “BAD” so what does his 18 old brain say to do? “CALL my 12 yrd old brother at 11:30 pm” so kid brother was soooo excited he actually answered. Such a good guy he let his brother off the hook told him “Its ok,I understand.” Then he says “you know, its 11:40 and I have school tomorrow so I have to go (voice breaking).” After he hung up, I heard him crying. SO I huged him and when I asked him what was wrong he said “I really, REALLY miss him,mom” made me cry too! SIGH! It’s a process!</p>
<p>Can I tell you pizza girl I’m not sure when UCSC has their parent week-end BUT I CAN’T wait for either that or Thanksgiving which ever comes first! :-)</p>