<p>Myth buster - you do not have to wear black, be subdued and modest in dress, however. Keep this statemnt in your back pocket, as it is the most simple, “I am so sorry for your loss.”</p>
<p>Agree, this is for the living. But it’s not just the service you attend. If you were close to the survivor(s,) it’s nice to send a note later, after some interval. With the holidays coming up, it can be natural to use this time to send even a line of support. Their grief doesn’t end when the services are over and even “thinking of you” can be appreciated.</p>
<p>Closing 5 year old thread.</p>