Gay at Princeton

<p>All of us have visited Princeton and become infatuated with the campus, the architecture, the students, the professors, the academic opportunities, the cordiality of the people. Many of us, including me, have applied ED. </p>

<p>Unfortunately, though, for me there's an additional factor that I should have taken into consideration before possibly binding myself to the school for 4 years. I have heard rumblings of the conservative atmosphere at the school. I even saw a few editorials in the Daily Princetonian criticizing the "homosexual lifestyle" and "those who condone it." I know that the administration is supportive of gay student rights, but what really matters are the students and community in creating a friendly atmosphere. Even the Princeton Pride Alliance's website is not very encouraging. In their quotes page, there are more than one reference to homophobia on campus. I hear that there is an extreme independent gay group on campus that has taken controversial measures to get their agenda across. That's totally not me. I am just a typical suburban northern californian. Out here where most people are extremely open-minded, my friends are a very mixed group of people, straight and gay, and sexuality is really a non-issue. I don't want to be naive, though, and imagine that the same climate exists throughout the country. </p>

<p>My fear is not so much attacks on the street or overt belligerence, but rather the general closed-mindedness that exists in many parts of the country, where people maintain a perfectly polite facade to your face, but they'd never be your friend (after all, what would others think?), and you end up clustering in a little group of ostracized gay students. What kind of college experience would that be? Of course there are exceptions wherever you go, but i'm talking about the general picture. Call me apathetic or lazy or whatever you want, but I really don't want to live in a "highly closeted atmosphere". Although I could conceivably do it since I don't fit the stereotype (i'm an unstylish, uneffeminate baseball player), the closet is not somewhere I want to return to, especially for 4 more years. </p>

<p>There's a small part of me that would not be so depressed upon receiving a little envelope in the mail come December, so i could keep my options open later on. Am I overreacting?</p>

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<p>well, I'm not a current pton student, but I am a "typical suburban northern californian," so, assuming we both get acceptances come december, there'll at least be one freshman from the same background of the very open SF Bay Area. From what I've heard (obviously, I could be wrong), Pton is the most "conservative" of the Ivy's, but is by no means "conservative." Yes, there probably is some homophobia, but that's going to probably be true anywhere, and "conservative" in terms of a college campus is hardly conservative by any other standard. My basic point is don't worry about it with the additional point that you won't be the only "suburban northern californian", there will be others (hopefully) and there will always be people who are totally fine with you regardless of sexual orientation. It's just a matter of finding them. It's not like Pton is Bob Jones University or Brigham Young. Good luck with your application!</p>

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<p>i did a little facebook investigation for you, and only found 70ish people listed as gay (both men and women) either they dont sign up for facebook, they arent at princeton, or they are closeted.</p>

<p>not sure how to analyze the data, but i know i wouldnt be mean hah</p>

<p>Please direct your questions to bazarsky @ Princeton.EDU or a similar officer. She is an officer in the Princeton LGBTQ group who sends out all the emails and will certainly be able to answer your questions. As a Princeton student, I am signed up for their email lists as I am a LGBT ally and try to be as supportive of the community as possible. I haven't encountered any homophobia on campus yet, but I am sure much of it happens when people are drunk and quite clearly don't know what they're talking about. </p>

<p>As far as LGBT events go, there are a TON of them (several per week, far more than you will have time to attend). I was also concerned about the homophobia on campus as I am a very liberal New Yorker, but I was pleasantly surprised by the foothold and prominence the gay community has in the Princeton student body. </p>