<p>The truth, razorsharp? So you are confident that women are not as successful as men in legal practice overall because women are simply not good at bringing in business? There couldn’t be any other factors at play?</p>
<p>Of course, your statement would mean that men and women have equal opportunities to meet and bring in clients, right? And that would also mean that being promoted up to a level where clients would take a woman (or anyone for that matter) seriously enough to want to give her their business (and where she could be the “relationship partner”) is as easy for women as it is for men?</p>
<p>Look, no one is denying that men and women who fail to bring in business will struggle to succeed at law firms. That said, failing to bring in business is hardly a female-only problem, and it is impossible to believe that female personality traits alone lead to the small percentage of successful female partners in BIGLAW. Just become some women manage to overcome the additional obstacles that women face in becoming successful partners in BIGLAW does not mean that the rest of the women are whiners. It simply means that some women leaped all of the tall hurdles placed before them and somehow made it work.</p>
<p>The reality is that even women who are very successful lawyers face obstacles that you may not appreciate. Did you not read through the study that I cited above by Lani Guinier (which was much cited in the popular press, and which withstood much scruitiny) regarding challenges faced by women at top law schools? </p>
<p>The challenges women face grow once a woman begins her career as a lawyer in BIGLAW (and perhaps this is why so many women work outside of BIGLAW, either from the beginning or after leaving their initial BIGLAW firm). From personal experience and from the experiences of many other female lawyers with whom I am acquainted, the boys club mentality often keeps us shut out. I can’t even begin to count the number of times when my male colleagues have discussed business, socialized with clients and handed out plum assignments to associates at “boys’ lunches,” out at “drinks with the guys,” and on the golf course. The women, no matter how well liked, are simply not invited most of the time. </p>
<p>In addition, in many instances, women have to approach “rainmaking” from a completely different angle than men. Women won’t be invited to or involved in many of the schmoozy, social opportunities to meet clients that men have, so they give presentations, get involved in trade and industry organizations and try to win clients in professional settings. Let’s not forget, too, that many of the potential clients (realistically, many of whom are men) out there have wives who are not thrilled when a female lawyer tries to schmooze her husband, particularly if that female lawyer is young, confident, intelligent and (gasp!) attractive. </p>
<p>Furthermore, I can’t even begin to count the number of times when an important client hit on me or one of my female colleagues or made inappropriate remarks in a business setting (I can remember one time in particular – “Where is that chick with the great legs? Why isn’t she here yet?” – referring to a mid-level female M&A associate), where the client is too important to properly chastize and where the response from the male attorneys in the room is simply a laugh with a “now, now, we know that’s not appropriate here . . .” laugh, laugh. What about all of the male lawyers at one’s own law firm who hit on the younger female associates and summer associates? That happens quite often, and makes for a very uncomfortable situation in the short and long term. </p>
<p>Furthermore, whenever a woman goes out on maternity leave the talk begins about whether she will ever come back, whether or not she has ever said a word about her intentions. As soon as a woman gets married the other lawyers often begin to take her less seriously as they watch and wait for her to get pregnant. In fact, when I was first married as a mid-level associate and returned to work from my honeymoon, I was told that a fantastic opportunity to work on a huge global public acquisition was being withheld from me because I probably needed some time to adjust to my “new life.” That was seemingly thoughtful, but I knew there was something else going on. After probing, I found out from a trusted mentor that the real concern was that I would now want to focus on starting a family, so “why not give the learning opportunity to someone else who is going to stick around?” Yes, a partner actually said that to me. I had to spend countless hours promising that I was not leaving and that I was not planning to start a family anytime soon before I was added to the deal team. These things really happen, though, unfortunately for many women, they are unable to get a real, truthful answer about why the work isn’t coming their way.</p>
<p>As far as working “part-time” (which is usually at least 40 hours a week in BIGLAW in return for a reduced paycheck), there is little question that the “mommy track” is a fast track to nowhere. I know of only one woman in NYC BIGLAW in recent years who was promoted to partner after many years working “part-time”. In fact, the occurrance was so unusual that it was covered by the mainstream local press in addition to the legal press. </p>
<p>Are there women who don’t come back to work after having children? Sure, but I remain convinced that a good number of them don’t come back because they know that any “normal” career path/partnership track they were ever on would be closed to them. </p>
<p>The old stereotypes may have been tweaked as more and more women become lawyers and the gender discrimination is much more subtle (especially in these days of repeated sexual discrimination training), but the hurdles are still there for the women to jump. The discrimination still occurs, though perhaps it is more insidious because it is veiled in legally and socially acceptable words and mannerisms. All female lawyers are affected to some extent by the consequences of these kinds of sexism. Some are successful despite it.</p>