<p>My girlfriend and i have been dating for awhile, she ended up going to UF and im at UCF, were both freshmen. we decided to stay together and she was skeptical about uf, she ended up hating it there for many reasons. She always said if she got another chance to go to ucf she would. After applying to UCF and saying she would aattend there she eventually got in, she was very relieved and excited. Now after a week she is saying she doesnt know if she hates uf as much, suddenly after meeting some ppl. All the reasons that she hates uf are still there but now she says shes confused whether leaving is right. I dont want her to stay just because she all of a sudden met friends. </p>
<p>What approach should i take when talking to her about the situation? I feel stupid cuz she was so convinced she wanted to come here to ucf…and if all the reasons she hates uf are still there, are her new friends more important than me and the school she wanted before. im so confused, any suggestions on how to approach her? Any girls have advice on how to handle this without pressuring her?</p>
<p>Well really this is an issue only you can really judge, not us. But I certainly understand what you’re saying because it seems like the same thing happened to me. My ex-gf and I dated for almost a year before college and decided to stay together…basically going into it we still had the mindset of seeing each other fairly often which was completely unrealistic. She initially did not like her school either which lead her to want to see/talk to me a lot. So she wanted to get together after about 2 weeks so we planned to meet. This changed as she met more people at her school and made more friends. She decided that she shouldn’t leave her school so early after we had already made plans so I put more pressure on her to keep to her commitment. This basically caused us to get into a fight for the first time which lead to us breaking up. </p>
<p>I clearly misread a lot of things to seeing how close we actually were to each other because we broke up after one fight.</p>
<p>My advice to you would be not to nag/keep reminding her about going to your school. If shes beginning to make friends there and is happier she isnt going to want somebody pulling her away from it even if you do really care about eachother. So keep encouraging her to make new friends and then kind of work the idea of switching schools without putting too much pressure on her. Also, would you consider switching to her school? You should really ask whether or not you would do the same for her.</p>
<p>It really depends on your relationship so you know best, but thats my suggestion from my personal experience. Good luck with it =)</p>
<p>go out, get laid, and forget about her. it sounds like shes doing it as we speak.</p>
<p>and dont listen to idiots like stoneimmaculate ^ ^ ^. Hes clearly never had a serious gf/wont have one for a very long time.</p>
<p>I don’t think you can pressure her to make the change. Let it go and let her make up her own mind. This is a big decision that will effect her academic future. You are asking her to switch from a more highly ranked college to a lower ranked college. You don’t want her to resent you for it if it is not solely her decision.</p>
<p>way to make assumptions fabregas. I was in a very similar position which is how I know that it is naive to think that this relationship is going to work. Is it impossible? no but you must realize that this happens to THOUSANDS of couples when they go off to college and about one in five hundred actually make it.</p>
<p>I also realize that my advice is falling on deaf ears, I wouldn’t have listened to it either at the time but it still stands that long-distance relationships at such a young age are silly.</p>