<p>I’m a college senior. One of my best friends’ birthday is today and her party is on Friday. As a result, I came up with the idea of giving her a small gift (candy, a small gift card, a story of mine–I’m a writer, etc.) every day of the week as opposed to one big gift. However, my mom seems to think that’s over the top. Last time I got someone a gift (a dear, dear friend), it ended in them deciding that they hated me, we were never friends, and they weren’t even going to open the gift (a book, nothing over the top) before sending it back to me, so I’m really edgy about gift-giving in general and would appreciate your honest advice.</p>
<p>Sorry to be so blunt- I don’t like it.
It sounds cheap and fawning at the same time.
People like things that are selected with their tastes and needs in mind, not those of the gift giver.</p>
<p>Whatever!!! I am assuming you are a perfectly nice typically broke college senior? Go for it. Small gifts over a week…cute—if this is a guy giving to a girl—she may read things into this scenario. Even if you are …just friends. </p>
<p>Have you always exchanged gifts with this person?</p>
<p>I would guess the other friendship that ended had nothing to do with you giving a gift (since it was never opened)–there is more to that story.</p>
<p>My D would love to buy her friends Prada bags…not happening, so starbucks gift cards and home baked cakes will have to do.</p>
<p>I don’t really like the idea of small gifts over a week’s time. A birthday is a one day celebration.</p>
<p>Just give her a birthday card, gift card, and some candy. I wouldn’t include the story (corny and gives the impression to me that you’re looking for her to acknowledge your writing skills).</p>
<p>this sounds like it’s going to end up like The Office and Andy’s attempts at a Christmas gift in the form of everything from the 12 days of Christmas.</p>
<p>It also sounds like you have quite the crush. Why not man up and ask her out to dinner instead?</p>