Girl sharing suite w/ 3 guy friends: Socially acceptable?

<p>I’m currently a first year college student. Starting next year, we can pick our roommates, even if they are not the same gender as you are. </p>

<p>I’m really good friends with three guys, and we are considering getting a suite for four together. One of the guys is gay, so I will be sharing a room with him while the two other guys are in another room. Everything seems to be fine except that I’m afraid people will think of me as a slut that I’m the only girl living with three guys.</p>

<p>Do you think it will be socially acceptable? If you are a girl, would you think less of a girl in this situation? If you are a guy, would you think twice before dating someone in this situation?</p>

<p>I am a girl. Considering I am MUCH better friends with guys than girls, I would think nothing of this situation. The last thing I would think is that you were a slut. I was supposed to live with two guys and a girl next year, but the two guys decided to study abroad. FWIW- My fiance was fine with the situation. </p>

<p>It might not be entirely acceptable, but I personally know no one who would have an issue with it.</p>

<p>I wouldn’t think twice about it, but I can’t speak for anyone else. If someone you like seems put off by it, you might mention your specific roommate is gay. Or just not bother with anyone stupid enough to judge you before knowing you.</p>

<p>I actually know someone at my school who rooms with three guys! Seeing as it’s a suite and your specific roommate is gay, I don’t see why it would be a problem. Although you might get a little bit of judgment from people who don’t know your roommate’s sexual orientation, you know it, and if you’re comfortable with it, then I say go for it.</p>

<p>Thanks people this just made me feel so much better!</p>

<p>Me and my closest girl friend have often wished we could live with our guy friends instead of try to find girls. They’re so much simpler, plus we trust them completely. Unfortunately our school is just having it’s gender neutral pilot program next year so we didn’t sign up in time.
Other girls will probably view you as lucky you don’t have to put up with all the drama.</p>

<p>Didn’t you ever hear that rooming with friends is what you DON’T do in college? Trust me on this one!!!</p>

<p>I would try to see what their habits are like around the house…you just never know with people. Especially guys :p</p>

<p>I never understood the “don’t room with friends” thing. What happens when you become good friends with someone you room with? Does that break the time-space-dorm continuum?</p>

<p>I think that statement is far too absolute.
You can room with your friends, if you truly know them. If you go from hanging out once a week for an hour or two to living with them, yes it can be a problem. If you have actually lived with your friends, just in different rooms…then you know what to expect.
I wouldn’t recomend anyone rooming with a friend from high school in their first year though, there’s too much changing that goes on and resentment is probably going to happen.</p>

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<p>I think the reason people say this so much is that it really sucks when you lose a good friend because the two of you just can’t handle living together. In all honesty, you will have friends that would make a great roommate for you, and others that would make a rather poor roommate. The same is the case with rooming with someone that you are not friends with.</p>

<p>So the odds of getting a crappy roommate are equally bad if you are choosing someone you are already friends with as if you are choosing someone you don’t know. It doesn’t seem like a real big deal if you room with a stranger and you guys don’t get along, whereas if you room with a friend and end up hating each other, it seems worse. </p>

<p>It basically comes down to “losing a friend” vs. “not gaining a new friend”.</p>

<p>At least that’s the way I see it.</p>

<p>I think that statement is far too absolute.
You can room with your friends, if you truly know them. If you go from hanging out once a week for an hour or two to living with them, yes it can be a problem. If you have actually lived with your friends, just in different rooms…then you know what to expect.
I wouldn’t recomend anyone rooming with a friend from high school in their first year though, there’s too much changing that goes on and resentment is probably going to happen.</p>

<p>It will complicate your dating life. Guys will be suspicious of the guys you are living with.</p>

<p>I think if you do what makes you happy then the people who truly matter to you will be fine with it too.</p>

<p>I know my daughter would be very happy if she had the gender neutral option to room with her gay friend. As her mother, I think it would be a good arrangement, anyone who had a problem with it wouldn’t be someone my daughter would want to be close to anyway.</p>

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<p>Part of the problem, definitely. I mean, if you’re older and you know you and your friends are responsible adults that know how to manage an apartment/living in a dorm then that’s one thing. But it’s way different when you’re just out of high school and living on your own for the first time. Especially if you/your friends haven’t had that much responsibility growing up at home. Some people like to act like they’re still under their parents roof and aren’t responsible for anything- and they don’t realize they’re expected to act like adults. A lot of people just jump into college life and don’t give a second thought to doing some of the stupidest stuff possible and don’t think about how they’re acting. There’s a lot of new opportunities in college, and people change a lot.</p>

<p>There’s such thing as too much of a good thing. There was a great plot in Community where one friend refused to room with another because of that.</p>

<p>apparently my girl cousin who goes to michigan is getting a house with 5 guys next year. shes currently a junior RA and is getting it with 5 freshmen</p>

<p>i have no idea about it because i dont talk to her, her mom told us this at thanksgiving</p>

<p>happy bukakking</p>

<p>I see nothing wrong with it. </p>

<p>If anyone actually thinks you’re a slut because you’re rooming with 3 guys, they’re crazy (what do they think you’re doing, banging all three?!?! <em>confusion</em>). </p>

<p>I can see some guys you try to date getting jealous of the guys you live with, but besides that, I don’t see a problem.</p>

<p>I’m so happy to see most people are positive about this. It’s actually quite a surprise =)
Next year is going to be such an adventure!</p>