<p>I'm currently a freshman in college, almost 20 years old with a 3.6 GPA and a U.S.A. Cadet. My girlfriend of three months is pregnant and she was on the pill (apparently she missed two pills in a row during her first week and we had sex on her 8th day). I am really scared and I want to have kids but I need a career first so I can support a family (I didn't want to get married till I am 30). Abortion is NOT an option! Her and I made a deal before we started having sex is that if she got pregnant I would marry her for the kid, and the family (I do love and care about her). I'm just really scared cause I think my career and life is ruined and there is almost no point on living. I want to be a good father and take care of my child but I don't think it is possible to get my commission with a baby and it is NOT possible to support a family on minimum wage. I'm seriously thinking about going enlisted to sign up to go to Iraq to make some extra money. I just need some responses to comfort or help me think things out. </p>
<p>My mother doesn't like her cause she is afraid she has been trying to trap me to be with her. She is kind of manipulative, and it seems like she makes excuses for herself. In addition, she has her rare affectionate moments when I'm more affectionate than she is. She has told me she feels bad that she isn't more affectionate towards me and I'm the best guy she has ever been with. I'm just throwing out this extra information.</p>
<p>Ideas that are going through my head are:
1. Stay in school try to get my commission and have her get a full-time job (will make more money in the long run and can support a family).
2. Go enlisted to go to Iraq (can semi support a family while on welfare).
3. Don't marry her and just give her child support, while staying in school (is myself the priority of having a good life and supporting the kid financially from a distance?).</p>
<p>I want to best for the kid and myself. But I'm afraid I will hate this child because it ruined my life. If I was having a kid three years later I wouldn't be worrying as much!!!</p>
<p>PS: I don't need any posts to tell me how I ****ed up my life, cause I already realised that my promising life is possibly at an end!</p>