<p>It’s college! You can do whatever you want, and there’s no right or wrong way of living. If you’re religious, then you can stick to your morals or go against them; if you feel that you messed up before you came, then you can try and change it or keep at it. </p>
<p>Everyone is so diverse in college, so there’s really nothing to fret over. You’re there to learn and grow both academically and personally, and you’re your own measure of that growth. </p>
<p>Best of luck!</p>
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Uh… I’ll just keep my mouth shut on this.</p>
<p>To answer your question:
Everyone else has pretty much said it all. You’ll be fine. I will be going into college without experience myself. I’m not worried. Any decent guy will understand.
Don’t force a relationship. If you go through your first year of college without finding a boyfriend, that’s fine. If you go through all of your undergraduate years without one, that’s fine, too! You won’t be “weird”. You are yourself; do what seems right to YOU, not the rest of society.</p>
<p>I’m going to leave college without having any dating experience (oh God help me out here!) so you’re fine.</p>
<p>^ You know what’s going to happen over the next year and a half?</p>
<p>Thanks, Crimson! Yeah, I’m pretty much doing so to avoid…certain situations, lol. </p>
<p>I also tire of others bashing my beliefs and labeling them as obsolete just because they cannot comprehend them. Ack. It gets old. Adopting the whole “u liv in teh stone age ermagerd im so enlightened” attitude annoys me to bits. -__-</p>
<p>Haha it depends on what school you go to. Some schools boys will treat you different than others</p>
<p>A good man will praise you for staying pure and worship the ground you walk on. He will delight in being your first and be excited in being able to teach you everything! Just don’t start out conversations - I have never dated. And don’t give anything up just for the experience - wait for the love of your life!</p>
<p>^That’s so sexist on so many levels.</p>
<p>He sounds Christian</p>
<p>The advice to not worry about it, because many others have not had much experience with dating and sex and even those who do will probably not hold it against you, is good. The stuff about values is useless, until we know what the OP’s values actually are. Does she have a strong attachment to her faith or traditional values and want to wait until marriage to date (or, as Tony suggests, to date)? Or is she open to casual dating, or even casual sex? </p>
<p>(Based on her responses, it sounds to me like she’s not planning to forgo sex until marriage, but she’s also skeptical of casual sex—which, at least in my experience, is the most common attitude for high school seniors and college freshpeople to have.)</p>
<p>The point being, it does no good to advise her based on your own values and beliefs. She didn’t ask, “Do you think I should have casual sex?” or “Do you think I should cohabitate?” She just asked whether she should be the only one who hadn’t dated or kissed anyone in high school. And the response to that should be: No, don’t worry. You won’t be the only one with little or no experience with romance, and you’ll quickly gain social experience in college.</p>
<p>dont worry i was in your position, but i got laid the first week, well for me as i am a dude it was easy to get girls. but hs was just not the best days of my life, and my college social life is worth less, so think about what you want first.</p>
<p>Alexissss, I haven’t actually had anyone really mention it yet. I’m in SC, so most people wouldn’t talk about anything with anyone other than the people they “hang out” with otherwise. Same with drinking, drugs, etc. I can usually tell, but they would never mention it unless I was one of the people doing drugs and such. I’m not too worried about people making fun of it, I think that people that say they are so enlightened are usually more stuck in their “enlightened” ways than the stone age people like us :-D</p>
<p>Commenting on the Southern hospitality, just because this reminded me… A foreign exchange student told one of my parents’ friends (Their host) that they didn’t like people in the South. When the hosts asked why, they said something like “People say Southerners are nice, but really they just hide the nastiness behind their back. If they don’t like you, they will act nice to your face, then bash you everywhere else, etc.” That’s not true for everyone, but I think it was an interesting perspective.</p>
<p>I kind of didn’t get djryan’s post at all. What was your advice?</p>
<p>I’m in the exact circumstance as you. lol I’m a HS senior and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I have male friends and a little crush but this is as far as I’ve gone with the whole boyfriend situation. 
When I go to college, I’ll be in no rush to dating or meeting anybody special, I’ll just ease my way into the college social scene by trying to get out of my comfort zone. ;-)</p>
<p>@crimson
lol I must agree! I just prefer that when others are around me, they keep whatever…personal matters they have to themselves. I do the same for my beliefs unless asked. </p>
<p>I just moved to GA and I must say, it’s quite a culture shock. Things are VERY different here than up north. :o</p>
<p>OP, my daughter was a lot like you. She was worried about it too. But you’ll find others like you in college too. She made a lot of friends similar to herself, and by the end of the first year, she had a like-minded boyfriend out of that set of friends. Enjoy college, be true to yourself, be smart - you’ll be okay. :)</p>
<p>Love your question, and a lot of these answers. Not all, though.</p>
<p>No, it’s not bad. In fact, I believe that it is good. There will be many at college just like you. Also, many that have gone to the dark side. But I’ve found that the most depressing (and often depressed) college students are the ones that cling to the ol’ ball-and-chain from high school. You are free from unnecessary distraction.</p>
<p>My best advice is to take an Intro to Philosophy course ASAP. It’s a lost art, thinking and all. Rigid ideology has sadly replaced philosophy. Taught right, it’s mind-blowing and funny. Hopefully, you’ll come out of it knowing more about yourself. And you’ll never read the Declaration of Independence the same again. It is the Greatest Mission Statement ever, for the only country in human history to be founded on philosophy.</p>
<p>See, wisdom is not knowing the answers; that’s “Jeopardy”. Wisdom is the ability to ask the right questions.</p>
<p>Final piece of advice: Travel in packs. The rest will just happen; 100% sober, I hope.</p>
<p>Just don’t try to make up for your limited experience in the first week of college. Some people who have been a little sheltered in high school over-compensate in the first couple months - and the results are not pretty. Take your time.</p>
<p>I think you’ll be just fine, college is the perfect place to experience new things, responsibly of course. If you are cute, witty and kind you’ll be asked out a lot, i honestly don’t understand why you didn’t have a boyfriend in HS because you don’t seem to be reluctant to dating. Anyways, when it comes to relationships it’s better not think ahead and just enjoy the moment. Good luck.</p>
<p>I think this is where everyone can chill out now.
I appreciate everyone’s input and most of you have answered my question. Others abused it as soap box (then again, I guess that happens with threads and websites like CC)</p>
<p>But thanks everyone :)</p>
<p>I’m in your boat. Was really quiet in high school. I was with the anime kids and the ones who didn’t part much. Never been asked out, kissed or dated so this thread is revelant</p>
<p>But a lot of guys in college tend to pursue onne thing so be aware. I thought people were exaggerating when they said this but it’s pretty much true.</p>