<p>Hey, in the interest of not overcrowding this forum, I think I’ll post my two questions in this one thread:</p>
<p>A) How do you have the motivation to go to classes. For the past two years, I haven’t really gone to any. My grades are acceptable (generally 3 above 75, 2 around the high 50s low 60s mark), despite going to only a quarter of my classes. I really want to try to go this year, but can’t seem to get a good enough reason to go. Of course, might be because last year I had every class with a group of ‘friends’ who spent every second insulting me for no apparent reason. </p>
<p>B) So I met some cool people this past weekend when a friend I met invited me to his house for a get together. I really enjoyed having drinks with them and everything (I hope they did too!), the only thing is they’re about 45 mins away from me, so I’m trying to think how to become better friends with them. Any tips? </p>
<p>No one can give you motivation to go to class. That’s ridiculous. If spending thousands of dollars a year isn’t enough motivation(which I am sure you are, because you can’t keep a scholarship with those grades), then I don’t know what is.</p>
<p>As for keeping those guys as friends…what kind of response are you really looking for here? Go with the flow I guess. Don’t kiss ass and just be yourself. If you have to go out of your way for these people to like you then,</p>
<p>a.) They aren’t real friends anyways, and</p>
<p>b.) They will just end up treating you badly like your last friends did.</p>
<p>Good luck though, hopefully a new set of friends will benefit your struggling grades.</p>
<p>I just blocked all of my classes on Tuesday/Thursday. Of course, I was tired at the end of the day, but it was worth it. I found that I was much likelier to go to class if they were back to back.</p>
<p>My motivation to go to class was intrinsic. First of all, some philanthropist was spending thousands of dollars for me to be there and I was just so grateful for an opportunity that I would not otherwise be able to afford; that motivated me to go. Second of all, I have always wanted to do my best, and grades usually suffer when one does not attend class. Third, I knew that I wanted to go to graduate school, and one needs competitive grades if one wants to attend graduate school.</p>
<p>High 50s/low 60s is not acceptable. At my college, that was failing. At the majority of colleges, that can’t be much higher than a D if you go to college in the U.S. Contrary to what people may tell you, your college GPA is important for getting your first job out of college and if you ever decide to go to graduate school somewhere down the line, that GPA is going to haunt you.</p>
<p>My motivation is that I go to a small school so my classes have 20 or less people, and my profs won’t let us miss class unless there is a family emergency, so my motivation is that they will fail me if I don’t go. I guess this doesn’t apply to you much since I’m guessing you go to a large state school, but maybe just think of it that way? Think about how much money your parents are paying for you to get an education.</p>
<p>umm…what’s your grading scale…because a 75 is a C at my school for most classes, maybe a B for the lower level ones, and a 69-50 is a straight up D or E. Motivation? Well, for a good majority of my classes attendance is required. For another group, you don’t show class, you miss a vital lesson. I have one class on my schedule that seems a waste because the teacher simply goes over exactly what is in the book…something I do on my own…Sadly, that class requires attendance…like 5% of your grade…</p>
<p>For all my classes, for each class I miss, I’m throwing away…hmm…about $30 bucks</p>
<p>Fair enough about the not going to classes, appreciate the comments. Especially the ‘$30/class missed’ made me think. </p>
<p>I’d also like to discuss the second issue. They’re a very cool group of people (all artsci), just a bit far away (about 40 mins). I’m trying to think how to become better friends with them. Any ideas on what sort of plans I could make?</p>