While I do not consider this friend as a good friend, this friend thinks I am his one of good friend. How is going to same college with a friend? I feel really uncomfortable with this friend. I am an international student, so I will have to encounter him 100%. This friend knows many things about me, and he is known as big mouth. I am kind of worried.
I really want to start a new beginning at the college. Now I am depressed. Any advice?
Make new friends. Most colleges are pretty big places where you can explore lots of interests and meet many new people from all over the world. I know it probably feels as if you will be stuck with your friend, but I can pretty much guarantee you this won’t be the case when school starts as long as you put yourself out there to meet many new people.
Do not live with this person at college. If you have the same major, take different elective classes and/or enroll in different sections of the courses that you both have to take.
Your English is not perfect yet. To avoid this friend, you could consider enrolling in an Intensive English Program at a different college for one semester. I teach in one of those programs, and my college professor friends tell me that our graduates are much better students than the students who don’t take the English classes.
If you are going to a larger school, chances are you will never see your friend unless you are in the same department.
Don’t be this person’s roommate.
If your friend asks you to share a room at college, say that you would rather room with someone you haven’t met yet so that you will have more chances to meet new people.
You’re not insulting your friend if you do this. Many students – even those who really enjoy spending time with their friends from high school – choose not to room with them at college.
Even if the college is only 1500 students…there will be plenty of others for you to meet.