<p>Marite - This will be a real loss to the board. I too have been wondering what on earth has been going on here. I was thinking of posting a thread entitled “Why is Everyone So Cranky These Days!” While having you leave because you are now moving on beyond the admissions process is natural, (although you be missed whatever the manner of your departure), having you leave like this is very sad. I feel like the cranky people win.</p>
<p>On a personal note, I hope my statement that your son is a prodigy didn’t distress you. I was saying what I thought, I meant absolutely nothing bad by it, I have always been fascinated by those people who have the true true math brains, so please please please accept my apologies if I was at all insensitive. </p>
<p>All of that said, I join with everyone else in wishing you well.</p>
<p>I am an infrequent poster, but an almost daily reader. The wisdom and insight from the likes of marite, berurah, digimedia, andi, jmmom, jamimom, cangel, garland, carolyn, soozievt, SBmom, interesteddad(to name a few) have had me looking forward to round 3 of our family’s college search.
I know I have yet to post any thanks for advice I have found on CC but each of you (and many others) have touched me in some way.
I am guessing I am not alone in silently accepting your generosity of sharing.
Please accept my thanks, wishes of the best for you and yours, and plea for you to continue sharing your wisdom.
mominva</p>
<p>berurah, dig, to you both as well. I hope you stay. </p>
<p>I know I am one who finds this forum to be what kjofkw says, a virtual playgroup. Having gone back to full time work, I don’t get to stand around in any parking lots or volunteer activities or even really get to know the parents of my teenage kids’ friends. When the kids were little I was home, I had a mother’s group. Now I come here. Silly, maybe, but cc has become an important part of my life in a very short time. Hence the emotion. Sitting at my desk, feeling loss. </p>
<p>Isn’t there any way to revert to the general good feelings and patented cc tolerance that cheers referred to?</p>
<p>does anyone have any insight on what has been going on during the past few days that led to this? I know that I, for one, am pouring over my recent posts to see if there’s anything that could have sounded differently than I intended. I am looking at the threads where Marite has posted recently. Honestly, I don’t see a thing. Was there a thread so vile that the mods deleted it before I saw it? I am truly clueless. I have long considered the parents’ forums at CC to be one of the few truly supportive and civilized places on the internet.</p>
<p>texas137, Several threads were deleted recently, so detective work will yield nothing. I am just guessing, but I don’t think it was anything terrible heinous, just an accumulation of aggravation to the point where one asks oneself, “Do I need this aggravation??” My recommendation for anyone in this situation is to take a break from the forum and come back refreshed. :)</p>
<p>Marite- I’d just like to add my request to the many others here that you stay with us. We’ll really miss you if you leave. Regardless, best wishes to you and your family.</p>
<p>Marite: if you must go, you must. Regrets from here. Note, however, that the last major player to publicly resign was Robyrm, who nonetheles is still posting.</p>
<p>Berurah - sorry, but with five more kids in the wings for college, you simply are not allowed to leave. You are expected to become a super-resource by and by.</p>
<p>IMHO the mood has been uncivil, even ugly recently, boa****l, vindictive, aggressively unintellectual and anti-intellectual, our funniest posters have gone quiet, threads seem more combative than friendly.</p>
<p>I was going to keep my mouth shut, but what the heck. Please, folks!</p>
<p>Hey, you guys cannot leave- next year is Curmudgeon’s daughter’s application year. He has been so entertaining and is the honourary president of CCU, ya gotta stay and read their saga unfolding!</p>
<p>I was at a dial-up location and have missed these negative threads! But, all ya’ll should at least come back in the fall and offer hard-earned wisdom to the new seniors and their poor parents.</p>
<p>While I don’t have a horse in this race (parents group#1 vs parents group #2), I honestly believe I can share a little insight on why folks are leaving. Other than for the reason’s of just having kids move on. (I’d say you lose 50% of your active members for that reason alone. Another 25% are probably like me…no longer with a kid in the game, but I enjoyed myself here and still enjoy helping those kids/parents who are needing info about son’s school. Then I’d say about 25% stay as majorly active parents, posting regularly.)</p>
<p>When CC started out, and I don’t claim to be the oldest member here, CC was small. Very small. Five postings a day on the whole board, let alone one on a sub-category was a busy day. Over the course of the last few years (I came here in the 2000-2001 school year) it has grown quite rapidly. Which is a good thing, especially with the excellent moderation that has taken place here. shamless plug to the moderators However, with any growth of a web site too many different characteristics, different outlooks, and the somewhat availability of anonymous posting has enabled what started out as a nice little community to rapidly become a large city. Some of us, have stood outside happily, watching as new groups came in, still learning needed info, happy to dole out info when we could…but in essense becoming an outsider in a community we helped build. That’s okay. I wouldn’t have it any other way. But I think some of the groups here have gotten a little clique’ ish and sometimes these groups (which naturally gravitate together as they should) decide that their opinion is the only correct opinion. Unfortuntately some people get hurt or angry. The thing is folks…this site is a wealth of information. I’d hate to see it destroyed like its predecessor, the un-named site) which was destroyed for quite similar reasons. </p>
<p>As the moderator of another small parents board I can see how it happens…but I beg you all to keep posting your thoughts and information, but to read over your posts twice to make sure your coming accross the best that you can and not bashing others, welcoming to the newbies, including them so that they feel at home, and most of all to continue to be a community which helps. </p>
<p>1tcm who’ll go back to looking in from the outside</p>
<p>Marite, et al – I hope you stick around, just a little bit, but I know how hard it is to just lurk on a board that you’ve been so active on. </p>
<p>The board did get really weird for awhile. I stayed out of it for the most part, but I remember seeing a lot of threads that seemed to have waaaay more pages than would normally be justified by the topic – so I would take a peek at the end of the threads and was surprised at the hostility. I really think it’s just a phase. The “Senior” parents are in a very emotional time right now, and hot on their heels are the “Junior” parents entering the really stressful stages (starting with the SAT). I truly think it will calm down. </p>
<p>By the way idler, I’m usually pretty good at picking up the words that the filter automatically deletes, but I’ve been looking at “boa****l” and have NO earthly idea what the original word was!</p>
<p>Braggadocio was bleeped. How erudite. Idler, I suppose “Now is the winter of our discontents”. Somewhat unseasonal. Had to Google that quote to make sure it was correct:)) Trying to inject levity. Generally my only way to deal with loss.</p>
<p>Thanks Idler – and I finally “got” the deletion – the missing letters are an acronym used in text messaging to rudely tell someone to stop talking! (s hut t he [bleep] up)</p>
However, with any growth of a web site too many different characteristics, different outlooks, and the somewhat availability of anonymous posting has enabled what started out as a nice little community to rapidly become a large city. Some of us, have stood outside happily, watching as new groups came in, still learning needed info, happy to dole out info when we could…but in essense becoming an outsider in a community we helped build. That’s okay. I wouldn’t have it any other way. But I think some of the groups here have gotten a little clique’ ish and sometimes these groups (which naturally gravitate together as they should) decide that their opinion is the only correct opinion. Unfortuntately some people get hurt or angry. The thing is folks…this site is a wealth of information. I’d hate to see it destroyed like its predecessor, the un-named site) which was destroyed for quite similar reasons. </p>