<p>So how private can one expect a conversation between a friend to be? I was recently ill (more a continuation of a bad cold) and told a friend on the floor. I’ve been to the dr 2 times in the last month(University health dr’s) and both times they said it was a bad cold. I therefore was reluctant to schedule a third appointment. Basically my “friend” told another friend and they blew the whole thing WAY out of proportion, saying I NEED to go to the doctors because I probably have TB(seriously. although I only had 1 symptom). There were other reasons as to why I wasn’t that concerned about my symptoms. I told them to butt out because my health is my problem etc;, and that if I felt it were serious, I would go to the dr, otherwise it’s on par with a bad cold, and the dr can’t do anything about that.
So I go to the dr a few days later, they say its the aftereffect of bronchitis, and I tell them the dr’s never said it was, etc;, stand by diagnosis.They don’t give me anything and tell me to stay well hydrated and get a lot of sleep. I get back and suddenly everyone knows I was sick(one of the friends is blabbering). 3 days later the original friends states she is upset with me because I took “forever” to go to the dr and risked the health of everyone on the floor, and that it was unfair that I did not tell those 2 what I was sick with, and it was wrong for me to use the facilities when I was sick. I replied that I was taking care of my health by seeing the dr 3 times in a month and a half span, and she told me I was being a “negative” person b/c I told them my health isn’t their business, when I told them I did not appreciate them telling a bunch of random ppl I was sick. She then kicked me out her room.
Am I a reasonable person by thinking these two “friends” were a bit out of line(I found out yesterday they have been pouring gas on the fire between my roommate and I)? Sorry this seems naggy, but I considered them fairly good friends.</p>
<p>Yes!</p>
<p>If they were so concerned about getting sick than they should have ASKED you politely if you minded telling them what illness you had, not talked @#$% about you and come to their own conclusions. </p>
<p>And then they try to hold everything against you when you did nothing wrong? THEY were wrong. It was none of their business what you were sick with, how you handled it, or anything else. That’s like saying that I’m supposed to go tell my neighbors this stuff! No way!</p>
<p>I say you were totally reasonable.</p>
<p>don go to a small school… it’s much worse at a LAC.</p>
<p>total undergrad pop is 4,000.
40 girls on my floor/in the dorm.
So is it worth continuing any type of relationship with either person?</p>
<p>I’m not a student, so my experience is a bit out-of-date, but…</p>
<p>these girls are immature, intrusive and mistakenly feel entitled to interfere in your decisions and life. Be careful not to encourage them to continue doing this. If I were you, I would disengage from them pretty completely and focus my social energies on other, hopefully more mature, people.</p>
<p>[HHS</a> - Office for Civil Rights - HIPAA](<a href=“http://www.hhs.gov/ocr/hipaa/]HHS”>http://www.hhs.gov/ocr/hipaa/)</p>
<p>Enough said.</p>
<p>Unfortunately you will always run into people like this, some people just don’t have lives of their own. Follow the advice above and seek new freinds who don’t seem to focus on such inane stuff.</p>
<p>So had a meeting with the women in charge of the dorm about some roommate issues, and she tells me a few days ago one of the above girls called the on call RA about my illness and greatly exaggerated the issue as well. The coordinator really wasn’t concerned, and the RA thought it was a prank call.
What a loser.</p>
<p>at college, one of the most impt skills you need to learn is to ‘learn to ignore’ you can’t care too much. but do speak up when you need to.</p>
<p>“risking the health of those on the floor”</p>
<p>You’ve got to be kidding me. They’re ridiculous.</p>
<p>It’s a DORM. Of course people are going to get sick and (possibly) spread it around. I know at least 4 kids on my floor who have mono right now (thankfully it hasn’t spread), and about a month ago nearly everyone was sick (my floor is coed, about 40 people or so).</p>
<p>This was too long to read but I love Gossip girl.</p>