<p>What do you do if more than one person is being honored at a party? What if you are only close to one of the honorees? Am I obligated to give a card/money to all the grads having the party?</p>
<p>This is a tough one. Years ago when my D was little, there were joint birthday parties, and sometimes she did not even know both kids. At the first one she attended, I gave a gift only to the girl that she knew, and I guess this was a mistake. I really had considered it that only the girl that we knew had invited her. Although they never said anything, a couple of years later when my D invited the other girl to a party (still in elementary school - and not a joint party), she came but gave no gift.</p>
<p>My D is invited to a couple of grad parties with joint honorees this season. I am sending gifts to all the honorees, but I feel a smaller gift for those who she hardly knows is ok. That is the conclusion that I came to some years back. I am hoping to see what everyone else thinks.</p>
<p>Wow! I’m shocked that girl or her mother even remembered such a thing after that long.</p>
<p>I thought I’ve seen this topic discussed here, but I can’t find it. Any idea what words to use in the search box?</p>
<p>I think it depends on the type of party and it’s probably different from family to family. When my cousin and I had joint graduation parties (both high school and college) our family members gave gifts to both of us, same thing with friends of the family… but our friends only gave gifts to each of us that they were friends with.</p>
<p>That being said, years ago my much younger cousin had a birthday party with her nephew, who is actually a year older then her. She was turning 6 and he was turning 7. Her mom invited her whole class to her birthday party, but his mom only invited a few people. Neither of them told the parents it was a joint party because they didn’t want the people to feel obligated to bring a gift to kids they didn’t know. I got them both something. That being said, I felt bad for the kid because practically her whole class came and he only had like three friends there. She raked in the gifts!</p>
<p>We attended a joint graduation in a local park a few years ago. It was a lovely picnic, with about 6 boys, hs graduates. Each had a table showing their special memory items (our friend was an Eagle scout). It never occurred to me to bring gifts for others. In fact, I didn’t recognize their names and could not have picked them out at the party.</p>
<p>I will note that there were probably a lot of friends that knew each other there, and some that did not. Still there was a large and fun crowd playing a massive frisbee game. We really enjoyed watching them in some spontaneous free play.</p>
<p>We did a joint hs grad party for our son (about 6 other kids). The parents all decided to specify “No Gifts” on the invitation. If people really want to give one, they can do it at some other place/time. Just our decision. And all of the parents didn’t know each other before we got together to plan the party, but the kids were all friends and it was a lot of fun. Plus a lot of their teachers came. Also fun.</p>