<p>This is like saying Asians should try to play sports more to improve their nerdy image, or Jews should give more to charity to improve their cheapskate image. More often than not, people’s bias is out of ignorance, IMO to try to change someone’s bias is a waste of time.</p>
<p>I am assertive at work, but as a woman I am viewed as being a B (apparently I can’t use that word on CC). Should I try to tone it down and be more submissive, so I could change people’s view about me?</p>
<p>Well, if it’s impossible or somehow not in the nature of frats to stop sponsoring and promoting drunkenness, racist attitudes, casual sex, and criminal underage drinking, then that rather confirms the critics’ points. </p>
<p>But hey, if they are proud about their lowlife image, or at least unwilling to change it, then I guess they have made a choice to live with it.</p>
<p>No, YOU have lowlife image of them, and there are others like you, just like there are so many bigots out there.</p>
<p>I am proud to be a B at work, no need to change my image.</p>
<p>My grad school is a private business professional type school and I worked with an admissions counselor when I was applying. Perhaps large research universities do not work that way, but we don’t know what type of school the OP’s daughter wanted to attend.</p>
<p>Partying, casual sex and even underage drinking are normal behaviors for college-aged people. These are not “low-life” activities, perhaps unless viewed from an ivory tower.</p>
<p>Given that “sororities” and “fraternities” are not a monolith, nor controlled by some central entity, it’s a bit ridiculous to expect that “they” can change their image. A specific sorority or fraternity that promotes charity, citizenship, academic success, and clean living will have ZERO effect on the culture at large, let alone people who are strongly anti-Greek. </p>
<p>Likewise, stereotypes often persist long after there is any reason for them to do so; even if every Greek house were to be a model of upstanding citizenship, the culture at large would not catch on for decades. </p>
<p>So I’m a bit perplexed by the idea that it is somehow the fault of people within the Greek system that others do not hold it in high regard.</p>
<p>Look, I don’t really care about greek life one way or the other. But, some of the worst drinking and out of control behavior is happening at schools without a greek system.</p>
<p>Frankly, I just think greeks should move away from institutional involvement. It’s in the best interest of everyone for them to just stop affiliating with universities. The Greeks can have their parties, which is what they really want to do, anyway, and the schools can stop trying to regulate them.</p>
<p>The 21 drinking age is the issue, AFAIC, and needs to be lowered to 19 for beer and wine. It’s just an untenable situation, I think, and I don’t even drink.</p>
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<p>In that case they better get started with cleaning up their act now. All the news stories linked to in post #101 are very recent. So the bad behavior is ongoing now, not from decades ago.</p>
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<p>Simple. Because it is the behavior of the people within the Greek system that has led to their current low reputation.</p>