<p>Hey guys, it’s me again! If you have read my other essay that is…Unlike the title of this thread, my essay might not be as jaw-dropping as you think it is as i did it within 25minutes! But nevertheless hope u enjoy it. Do remember to give me feedback and grade my essay! (2-12)</p>
<p>Intimacy between two people may be described as a sensual or erotic physical relationship. But in this essay, I will discuss on this topic on a more emotional level. Intimacy in my opinion, is the close bond formed between two people, who understand each other and have a deep connection with one another. Intimacy is based on chemistry with a person. It is what makes two people click. It is almost impossible to develop intimacy over time and opportunity. In the novel by William Golding The Lord of the Flies, Ralph and Jack tried their best to come to a consensus and put aside their differences but to no avail. Similarly, arranged marriages have shown dismal results on the happiness levels that spouses experience in these forced marriages.
The acclaimed novel The Lord of the Flies visited many times during our literature classes has characters possessing unique personalities and values. The main characters Jack and Ralph, tried very hard to set aside their differences and work towards a common goal, which was to lead and sustain the group of boys who were marooned on the island with them. Ralph who represented the organized and civil society wanted very much to look out for the boys and the littleuns who needed much emotional support and encouragement. While Jack represented the savage tendencies of the human spirit, was more concerned with hunting and was filled with bloodlust. He took a more totalitarian stance on how to govern the boys. Although the two boys had all the time together on the island and many opportunities were present for them to bond, such as the scouting of the land and the hunting expeditions they embarked on, Jack and Ralph eventually became enemies and the few glimmers of hope which we saw in the novel, vanished into oblivion.
Arranged marriages is another perfect example of how intimacy and friendship will not work out over time and space. In many countries such as India and Iran, many women are forced into marriage to bring her family out of poverty. The dowry awarded by the husband-to-be gets absorbed by the brides household. More often than not, the bride gets abused and does not have a fruitful or happy marriage. The couple usually find themselves at a loss especially since they do not know each other well. Proponents of arranged marriages believe that the young couple will have time to foster intimacy and bonds. However, they fail to take account of the fact that chemistry is needed between the spouses to develop that intimate relationship. No amount of time can compensate for the differences in character of the married couple.
Friendship is fostered by a special bond. However, that is not the end of it. It takes self-sacrifice between the two people to develop the level of intimacy and trust. It is true that time is needed to develop intimacy but it is only a small ingredient in the whole recipe. Chemistry between two people never ceases to amaze me and insofar, it is still an enigma even in our intellectual modern society.</p>