Is anyone else participating in the nerve-racking early pregnancy wait? DD had a positive pregnancy home test, then some bleeding and an ultrasound on Wednesday. At less than 3-weeks pregnant, doctor was able to see the tiny gestational sac on the ultrasound, and there has been no more bleeding. (DD and DIL are same sex couple, so it’s easy to pinpoint gestational date.). If all goes well, it’ll be several weeks before there is any embryo and more weeks before a heartbeat - if the cells divide and an embryo develops. Her HGC levels were good at the first draw Wednesday and she is waiting to see if a blood test today, Friday shows increasing HGC levels, which will show that her body thinks it is pregnant. OMG - I might become a grandmother! But OMG - this is life on tenterhooks! It all seems so tenuous and uncertain. How did you make it through this!
I’m sort of in your situation, but sort of not. My DIL is due to deliver on January 29 – fewer than three weeks! I"m on tenterhooks.
My FIL was an OB/gyn. When I told him I was pregnant, he said, “I will congratulate you at the end of your first trimester, but not until then.” A good thing to remember.
My DIL has her first dr. appt. next week. She believes she is 10 weeks along, but doesn’t have health insurance yet. My son should get it sometime later this month, so my concerns are a little different than yours. Our kids were all adopted so I don’t understand most of this medical jargon.
Not our kids but… Our “adopted” athletes told us that they are expecting!! The baby is due in early July. 
A very planned pregnancy. I am constantly knocking on wood.
DIL is due at the end of May. I am so excited I can’t stand it. They had an anatomical ultrasound on Monday and found out it was a girl!!
I tested positive in October and miscarried before my first appointment. I didn’t tell my parents until after I miscarried and the other set of grandparents don’t know (and won’t know until I’m well into my second trimester for reasons I don’t want to explain on a happy thread).
Your post is exactly why I didn’t tell my parents. (Not at all criticizing! My parents would just be on pins and needles and I know the odds of losing an early pregnancy.)
Best wishes!!! Hoping for good news (for both your D and myself…)
I was cautioned by my b/gym that I will as at a high risk of miscarrying so I tried not to talk about my pregnancies until after 1st trimester and we could head baby’s heartbeat. I had no miscarriages but took progesterone awhile to help with that.
Best of luck to all on the journey. Sorry @romanigypsyeyes that you miscarried. That’s very though.
My oldest is trying to conceive but has many medical issues that make that difficult. I almost hope she doesn’t tell me she’s pregnant until she delivers because she will be a high risk pregnancy and she is a two and a half hour air ambulance flight to the nearest hospital.
KKmama - perhaps she could stay with you for the last month of pregnancy if/when she gets to that point! Regarding timing of pregnancy news - I found out that i was pregnant with DD very early - too early for a pee test, but confirmed by a blood test. Finding out that I was pregnant so early made for a very, very long pregnancy. Our pediatrician didn’t realize she was pregnant until she was 4 months along, and then delivered her baby at 7 months. Much less waiting and worrying!
I suspected I was pregnant before I even missed my period—was confirmed via blood test with OB, who was amazed. S was 5 days late and we had a very very hot fall, which was hotter due to pregnancy I wasn’t as attuned as to when I was 1st pregnant with D—too busy chasing S!
@romanigypsyeyes My heart goes out to you.
My S and DIL’s baby boy is due mid April. They did not tell me until she was 7 or 8 weeks. Everything seems to be going well. My D has always maintained that she does not want children. I thought she would change her mind, but I don’t think she’s going to!
The real miscarriage rates are probably significantly underestimated, your DD must really have a great relationship with you to have told you about this, hopefully you dial all this…extra… back when you are with her, or does she not know how you are processing all this?
At 3 weeks and bleeding, I wouldn’t be talking to anyone other than my DH. I actually wouldn’t have talked to a dr at that point. When I had bleeding early in my second pregnancy, I really just took it as too early to even consider intervention. I don’t know how your DD got pregnant so that makes a difference, I imagine. If it was very medicalised, then this is an extension, I suppose.
It’s nice that your daughter told you so that you could provide her with support as she worries!
@anxiousmom Congratulations on being on the path to grandparent-hood. It’s a wonderful thing. I knew early on with one of my Ds but not as early as this. I’m guessing because of the circumstances, your D wanted to include you in the process, and that’s always a good thing. One of my Ds ended up having to go through IVF and we knew that early on. It was a brutal process and she needed all the support she could get. Sometimes the most difficult thing is not being able to discuss it with anyone else so I hope that you get some comfort here in CC land.
Waiting through 40 weeks of pregnancy, or even close to that, having known from almost the beginning, is going to be stressful but keeping a calm, positive outlook is the best way forward. There really isn’t anything else you can do! It can be tough. I worry through each of my Ds’ pregnancies because I had difficult ones myself but I try not to inflict that worry onto them.
I wish your D, her wife, and you , all the best going forward. One day at a time!
@romanigypsyeyes Sending lots of hugs and good thoughts going forward. I know exactly what it’s like.
@romanigypsyeyes I’m so sorry. I lost a baby very early, also. I was surprised how upset I was, even though I’d understood the high risk of miscarriage. That was back in 1991 and I can remember the incident so clearly.
I understand how painful miscarriages are, I had two. After the first, I did not tell anyone I was pregnant until I knew my pregnancy was viable. It is heart wrenching.
My daughter is 10 weeks pregnant and it has been a roller coaster for her. Besides her husband, I am the only person they have told. She stresses about everything. She never had regular periods, often missing 2-3 months and her doctor told her it was nothing to worry about but it might take a while for her to get pregnant as she ovulates less than the average woman. She envisioned she would miscarry because her symptoms have been so light, in her mind this equates to bad news thinking her hormone levels are too low. Mind you she doesn’t know this for a fact. Everything appears to be just fine with the pregnancy but she has been on pins and needles and awaiting the first trimester to be over. I hope she can relax then.
She is on a blog and women post weekly that they have lost the baby and then she goes on the internet and reads about everything that could happen. Ugh, the ability to share and know everything across the country sometimes is not good for one’s mental health. I reassure her but I also know first hand what can happen and life can deliver some hard experiences.
Two more weeks and I can pull out the Gund bear I ordered :-*
I’m so sorry for contributing to making this a miscarriage thread. Didn’t mean to.
My (hopeful) pregnancy will be high-risk due to the lupus, my meds (they’re keeping me on virtually everything, even the strongest drugs), and an antibody that can cause neonatal lupus and heart abnormalities.
2 more months of no pregnancy and I’m going to the infertility clinic by recommendation from my high risk obgyn. I want to have a baby while I’m still in my phd program because my insurance covers EVERYTHING including infertility treatments.
Good luck, @artrell ! May we all get good baby vibes this year
@artrell I could have written your same post! My daughter is 15 weeks and settled herself down some after her 12 week scan. It didn’t help that she had morning sickness that really lasted all day 
While she still doesn’t feel great after eating dinner, she gets through the work day without a problem.