<p>My daughter emailed last night that she had a great, exhausting weekend going through rush for the sororities and had found a few that shared her priorities, seemed like a great fit,and she was very excited about them . She said she had spoken with the girls at length and they were very positive about my daughter,etc,etc. The love seemed mutual. I told her to tell me how it went when she found out the results on Tuesday. I’m not a huge greek life fan, but I wanted whatever she wanted and made her happy. Today I got another email saying that the rush counselor or whoever, entered her choices wrong and put the 3 she had no interest in as her top 3 choices. When my daughter noticed and pointed it out, the person couldn’t go back in and change it. I guess you can’t change once it’s in the system or something. So, today she got the 3 choices she didn’t want and was so bummed, she quit the whole thing. She seems very sad and let down since it was because of someone else’s error. But she also feels defeated. Does anyone know if there is a way to fix this mess?</p>
<p>nope, unfortunately, may have to wait till next fall.</p>
<p>but i will add that its a bit odd about the rush counselor putting in the choices wrong, bc it doesnt exactly work like that. you let the sororities know about your interest in them and not through much a of a 3rd party. so it seems to me someones not telling the full story</p>
<p>Maybe, but she said that the recruitment counselor put her bottom 3 as her top 3 into the server and then tried to change it but wasn’t sure she was successful. Then those bottom 3 are the ones she ended up with, even though the top 3 said they were super interested in having her. It would have been one thing to be just rejected, but to wonder if you were not asked because someone else screwed up stinks.</p>
<p>The sororities themselves are the ones who bring girls back to their events. Therefore, if what you’re saying is true, if the sororities did in fact have a super interest in her, they they would have invited her back. Seems to me that the sororities who she liked unfortunately did not invite her back, and she was only invited back by the ones she disliked. There is no server with a “counselor” who picks the sororities with the student. So, like I said, something isn’t adding up and this makes no sense at all.</p>
<p>Thanks for your help. I don’t want to argue with you, but I do see you are a guy in a frat. Maybe they are doing something new this year for sororities? I mean, I have no interest in the greek system and my daughter knows I could care less either way as long as she does what is good for her. So, if she just needed to “save face” I can’t imagine her concocting this huge elabrorate story. She would have just said she changed her mind.</p>
<p>Can anyone else help at all or give some insight??</p>
<p>Hi Saf,
I am currently going through sorority recruitment as well, so I may have some insight on your daughter’s situation. I think it is very possible that her recruitment counselor (or “Roco,” as we call them) may have messed up your daughter’s preference order. The fraternaties on campus must use a different process, because Academia22 is incorrect. </p>
<p>Here’s how the process works:
At the end of every night of rush so far, we’ve had to “rank” with our Roco’s. This means that we meet with our Roco, and rank each chapter based on our personal preference. There are 10 sororities at GW, all of which every Potential New Member (PNM) visited. At the end of the first night, we do not have to rank our top eight choices, but we do have to rank our bottom two. The chapters themselves discuss every single PNM and decide who to invite back their parties on the second day. On the second day, a PNM may attend up to eight parties, if they were invited back to eight. If they are lucky, they will attend their top eight, but if any of those chapters cut them, they would attend their last bottom two choices, in order of preference. The second day of recruitment is similar: PNMs attend all parties (maximum of 8)they are invited back to, choose their favorite 5, and rank their bottom 3. Day three, PNMs attend all parties they were invited back to (up to 5), choose their favorite two, and rank their bottom three. The fourth night of recruitment is tonight (Preference Night), and PNMs will attend up to two parties.</p>
<p>I know that was super complicated, but I really believe that they system will work out for the best in the end. This is mainly because, as the sororities are choosing their preferred members, we are also ranking each sorority…so they’re choosing us as we’re choosing them. This being said, it is very possible that a Roco may have entered the PNM’s preferences incorrectly, as they literally do not let us write on our own preference sheets. I don’t understand why, but they just don’t. It is kind of the PNM’s job, however, to make sure their Roco is being accurate. </p>
<p>Anyway, Saf, I’m so sorry your daughter had such a frustrating experience. I hope she decides to rush again next fall!!</p>
<p>I am just a senior in a sorority, dont mind me</p>
<p>Academia…in another post you say you joined a frat…but anyway…</p>
<p>Thanks Pink Mingo. That is exactlty the complex process my daughter described, and indeed, the recruitment counselor put her choices in wrong and messed the whole process up for her and couldn’t correct it. Very disappointing. Best of luck to you and thank you for your help.</p>
<p>Saf, this is heartbreaking, and I wonder if you shouldn’t let someone know it happened so they can add a check to the system and it doesn’t happen again. I can’t imagine how devastated my daughter would have been to go through this, and I feel very sorry for yours.</p>
<p>Thank you lightmom. I know, it breaks my heart. I can only imagine how she felt yesterday when the girls were getting their bids.</p>