<p>Someone brought up grinding on the dance floor in a senior prom thread and rather than hijack that thread I thought that I’d start a new thread. </p>
<p>A couple years ago, my son attended a large sweet sixteen party at a local hotel. The parents were invited to attend the last hour of the event. So we arrive in time to see that many parents were already there. I’m talking with another parent that I’ve known since before we had kids. My son is out on the dance floor with a girl. Four other girls join them and now my son is surrounded by five girls who have formed a circle around him. I watch as these girls grind up against him - not the other way around - some at the same time. I turn to my friend who has a daughter my son’s age and he looks me back directly in the eye and he says ‘you wouldn’t believe the half of it.’ My thought was … if these girls do this sort of thing in front of their parents, what would they be doing when they are not around? </p>
<p>Admittedly, I only have boys and do not know the reality of raising young women. However, if some boy were grinding up against my 16 year-old daughter, I’d want to send him to the hospital. I know, I know, my naivet</p>
<p>As a mother of a 16 year old girl I just want to comment on this. My daughter has attended a slew of sweet 16 parties this year and the one comment that she makes after every one is how much she hates the way people grind on the dance floor! So much so that she refuses to dance at these parties. When I said “Well you should just go out on the dance floor and dance with your girl friends” she laughed and said that girls grind with one another too! So, not all girls “enjoy the grind”. I asked her what she didn’t like about it and she said that she thinks it just looks nasty (good girl haha). But then again, I have seen the way some of the girls dress for these parties and it doesn’t surprise me that they like to grind!</p>
<p>I chaperoned a junior high dance last year, and even saw some kids grinding there. One seventh grade girl, whose mom is on the school board, had one boy on her front and one on her back. It made me sick! Teachers will occasionally try to stop it, but it’s been so prevalent at high school dances, that I think they’ve almost given up. It’s unfortunate, because kids can’t just dance with a friend anymore and they’re much pickier about even accepting an invitation to a dance, because of this style of dancing.</p>
<p>I thought it was a new thing, too, until I watched Dirty Dancing recently. Not a whole lot of difference as far as I could tell. I remember thinking “Whoa” when I saw* Dirty Dancing* the first time-I sure never saw anyone dancing like that when I was growing up.</p>
<p>He was before my time, but wasn’t Elvis soundly criticized by older folks for his gyrations?</p>
<p>There’s definitely grinding at ds’s HS dances, but most of the kids just do the jumping around group dancing, like in a mosh pit. In middle school, if anyone tried that it a chaperone was on it!</p>
<p>There was an article in our local newspaper about “grinding”. Some school principals say they have to keep kids up off the floor. They are actually laying down to grind now. What do you think of that?</p>
<p>My kids former HS had the kids sign something saying they wouldn’t grind…lots of the kids were even grossed about by the level it had approached.</p>
<p>At my daughter’s (Catholic) high school, there is a “No juking, no grinding rule” at dances. If it starts, the lights go on and the music goes off, until the kids cool it. It’s not foolproof, but it helps.</p>
<p>Our school newspaper ran a story about a girl who was molested while on the dance floor at a chaperoned dance at a conference the newspaper staff attended in DC.</p>
<p>Okay, young grasshopper stalking the parents’ forum:</p>
<p>The grinding that went on at my HS’s dances drove me crazy, especially combined with very revealing clothes. I think teens take it too far too often.</p>