<p>Hi: I’m weighing in as a guy, as there were women, or at least there was one women, on the contrary thread.</p>
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<p>If you think or know that guys only care about sex, then you have in your hands incredible power. You know what motivates them. Use that knowledge well for your purposes, whether that be avoiding them or attracting what you consider to be the right one.</p>
<p>About career woman. The statistics increasingly show that educated men want to marry partners whom they consider their equals. There have been stories about this recently in the press. If I had more time, I’d google some of them for citation. </p>
<p>I think American women have an incredible burden; one one level, they are supposed to maintain sexiness as well as be strong and consummately professional (which implies a kind of sexlessness often). I can tell you I have dated some very powerful and interesting women, some of whom were on the top echelons of success. But American guys have some similar countervailing burdens. </p>
<p>For women, as well as for American guys, I recommend the following: when you aren’t at work, don’t be your work. Develop other lives. And don’t base all your views of the world on the workplace. It’s hard to explain without going into detail, but the most powerful people can make themselves so dull if they lose their ability to have balance and know that life is more than about what happened at work today. The problem is so many women, and men, have to work so hard. It’s tough.</p>
<p>One story I heard from a friend who was there: A rare female partner in a very well respected I-bank was in a limo in Paris. And she was going on and on about the company and her deals, and a French female counterpart, apparently tired of the arrogance she thought she was hearing said, “Yeah, but don’t you just want a man?”</p>
<p>The point is not that women should define their value by their relationships. The point is life is not just about work and your power. I am not intimidated by a powerful women; I just don’t like a woman that has sacrificed all style and grace to her work, or who never bothered to develop that style and grace in the first place.</p>